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Matti Freeman
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Re: Matti's Blogs

Postby Matti Freeman » 29 Sep 2017, 11:22

Hacking Freedom on Anchor Radio: Episode 1 - The Desteni Tools and Freedom
http://www.matterfreeman.com/2017/09/ha ... isode.html

Welcome to my new Anchor.fm station! In my first episode I talk about what it means to me to 'Hack Freedom' using the Desteni tools and principles.

Basically 'to hack' means = to access. So I'm accessing my own programs so that I can see what's going on in me, delete programs that don't support me, and install new ones that DO support me.

Stay tuned for episode 2!

https://anchor.fm/matti-freeman/episode ... ?at=861143



Matti Freeman
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Re: Matti's Blogs

Postby Matti Freeman » 30 Sep 2017, 11:38

Hacking Freedom Radio #2: Challenges of Adolescence led me to Spiritual Escapism
http://www.matterfreeman.com/2017/09/ha ... es-of.html

In episode 2 I talk about how emotional experiences related to school and social dynamics starting in early adolescence, shaped my feeling of being 'different' and 'not fitting in', which led me to get hooked into escapism through Spirituality in the mind's alternate realities in my early twenties. I was really into the 'love and light' thing - buying into the idea of being a 'special being' here on a mission to 'spread positive energy'. But my love and light didn't support me to have effective relationships and I began to ask myself what am I missing?

In episode 3 I will continue with how my life changed when I discovered the Desteni tools and principles and started applying them every day.

Listen on Anchor.FM https://anchor.fm/matti-freeman/episode ... ?at=867934



Matti Freeman
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Re: Matti's Blogs

Postby Matti Freeman » 09 Nov 2017, 21:07

Hacking Freedom Radio #3: From Spiritual Escapism to Practical Living with the Desteni Tools
http://www.matterfreeman.com/2017/10/ha ... itual.html

In episode 3 I talk about how in my early twenties I'd become disenfranchised with Spirituality because of a recent relationship breakup that led me to question things, not understanding why it was so hard to deal with emotions and judgments. I was looking for something more and I found the Desteni material which presented practical tools and principles like Self Honesty, Self Forgiveness, and Self Commitment Statements which I immediately began applying and which changed my life forever because I was finally able to start understanding my mind and behavior and changing myself.

Visit the link above to listen.



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Re: Matti's Blogs

Postby Matti Freeman » 09 Nov 2017, 21:08

Hacking Relationships: Humbleness within Hearing Another's Input, Suggestions, and Criticism
http://www.matterfreeman.com/2017/10/ha ... ithin.html

Don’t assume a person’s words are “not valid” just because they are “less qualified”, or “less experienced” than you.
You don’t have anything to lose by unconditionally considering and testing their input, suggestions, and perspectives.
We don’t always see every dimension of an issue ourselves and we’re not always as experienced as we think we are.

As I was typing out the words for this image it flowed very easily, like I'm stating something so obvious. But I have to say LOL because it took me quite a journey to arrive at the above words. I've had to face many moments of consequence in the form of reacting to the input of another, judging them, dismissing them, going into righteousness or superiority or some such Ego point. Each time this has happened and I later reflected on the moment, I would find that I was holding onto some Definition of myself in relation to how I do something, or what I believe is the most effective way, etc. Granted yes - sometimes we do see the more effective way, but the point I found is that whenever I experience any kind of reaction of defensiveness or righteousness, or feeling like I'm being invalidated in some way and I end up speaking as that reaction, or deciding to for instance disregard the other's input -- I end up closing myself off / shrinking / contracting / remaining within ONLY MY definitions. And I would say that "by definition" anytime we are unwilling to re-evaluate our definitions, we are closing ourselves off from Self Expansion, from the Opportunity to Learn, Grow, and see NEW dimensions of ourselves or of a point.

As an artist and musician, over the years I've learned that being willing to be open to another's suggestions and even try and test them out, means I always benefit. Because at the very least I can cross reference what I believe to be best against another's perspective, to determine if it is in fact the best way.

Again, I didn't just 'realize all this' in some enlightened moment. Nope. It took a lot of Self Honest self reflection, writing, Self Forgiveness, and also redefining what certain words mean to me like: Input, Criticism, Learning, Hearing, Listening, Expanding. So, within that process I uncovered memories and past events that had shaped my relationship to the scenario of "receiving suggestions, criticism, input" from others. Once I worked through those past events I was able to look at this scenario with fresh eyes = a fresh "I" - and change Who I Am within it, in a way that is not only best for Me - but also best for all involved in such exchanges, because if I'm not reacting and judging, then I won't speak in reaction and potentially compromise my relationship with that person.



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Re: Matti's Blogs

Postby Matti Freeman » 09 Nov 2017, 21:09

Hacking Anger: Understanding the Anchor of Anger
http://www.matterfreeman.com/2017/10/ha ... or-of.html

Visit link to see the image!

Why is Anger such a difficult emotion to get a grip on and really get to a point of personal change with, especially in those 'particular situations' in which we feel so strongly that our Anger is justified and 'the only possible response'?

"The Anchor of Anger" is how I would describe the way I've come to understand anger as it relates to my personal experiences with this emotion.

Anger has been one of the most difficult points of change for me, and I've found that the 'big anger' always starts with the accumulation of 'little moments' of anger. And so it's important to develop the awareness of what kind of pattern we are accessing in those little moments, because the change within anger starts with taking responsibility for those underlying ideas, beliefs, opinions, justifications, expectations, judgments, that we are Accepting and Allowing to Define ourselves in those little, seemingly 'small' situations.

The body can only store and suppress so much emotional energy and that's why it inevitably gets released in an explosion of emotion. Understand the Anchor of Anger, reflect on it, and start using writing to investigate which underlying 'Anchor Points' define your particular anger pattern.




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