Day 394: Can you Answer Any of these Questions, Dear Reader?
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This post is part of a series which can be accessed here.
For the purpose of context suggest reading the previous posts within this series, if you haven’t already.
“By setting an alarm clock, we arrange our environment to control our own behavior. We also control ourselves when we write reminder notes, remove certain foods from our refrigerator, purchase an exercycle, join a dating club, take a marketing course, get rid of our gun, turn out the lights at bed time, change a burned-out bulb in a reading lamp, turn a hearing aid on or off, or run through the alphabet to remember someone’s name.
In many aspects of our lives, therefore, we implicitly acknowledge that behavior is controllable. Does the control have to be coercive?” (45) ~ [*] Murray Sidman, excerpt from his book Coercion and Its Fallout
To ‘kick off’ the exploration into the passage I shared in yesterday’s post I will begin by looking at some interesting points in relation to this short section above. It may seem at first glance to be nothing of much concern, nothing much to be explored – yet, it is this specific list of behaviors that actually tells us a lot about how ‘in control’ we really are. Do we control our behavior, in fact, or does our behavior control us?
I will simply list here some questions and considerations that you, dear reader, can investigate and explore for yourself so as to begin to see how little actual control we currently have over our own behavior, even though we like to think otherwise, and thus how much of our self-control we have abdicated to our mind internally and to this money system externally - in separation from who we are as the self-directive principle of our life and living – and that, until this is sorted out, we will not be able to fully grasp nor hone the ‘essence’ of behavioral control in such a way that will prove beneficial for all life, as what is required to be done if we are interested in remaining here on this planet without destroying ourselves completely.
Before we even consider how we set an alarm clock to arrange our environment to control our own behavior, we must first ask – why do alarm clocks even exist in the first place? Could it have manifested as an extension of our ever-increasing lack of self-trust, wherein we became so separated from ourselves that we no longer trusted ourselves to be our own alarm clock?
And what do we have to wake up for anyway? Work - to make money, to survive? School - to get an education, to make money, to survive? Could alarm clocks be a symbol of how deeply in slumber we are? How deeply we have sunk into 'survival mode'? Where we hear this loud buzz or beep or song or whatever and we rise from our bed, but…do we ever really wake up? In the first moment we accepted that we required manufacturing a device that would alarm us awake, did we accept limitation? Did we in this moment accept coercive control? What were all the relationships that required existing FIRST before the accumulated acceptance that manifested an alarm clock in this world? And how have we continued this accumulated acceptance to such an extent that we don’t even consider the existence of an alarm clock and what it is showing us about who we have become?
The same goes with reminder notes – where is our self-trust? Why must we keep reMINDing ourselves? Have we accepted forgetting as who we are? Who did we have to accept ourselves to be to manifest reminder notes into this world? What were all the relationships that required being in place for ‘reminder notes’ to appear in this existence? Are reminder notes an external extension of our MIND, reMINDing us that we are enslaved, that our behavior is controlled by our accepted forgetfulness of what we have allowed ourselves to become? So that we must keep reMINDing ourselves to do this and do that and don’t forget you forget – don’t forget you cannot be trusted, you need me, I remind you that you are inadequate, I remind you that your behavior is controllable? Companies make profits, trees are cut down, sweatshops are erected so that we can remind ourselves to stay in our mind and keep forgetting what it is to be alive, what it is to be aware, what it is to care.
Is it ‘we’ who are controlling ourselves when we ‘decide’ to remove certain foods from our fridge? Have we ever considered the luxury that must first exist to even HAVE food in our fridge, let alone have the ‘choice’ to remove certain foods from our fridge? Have we ever considered not just the luxury that must exist, but the poverty and starvation and greed and death and torture that must exist for us to have, and to thus remove, food from our fridge? Is not then our behavior controlled by how much money we have? Who is it then that decided – ‘we’ – or MONEY?
Same goes with purchasing an ‘exercycle’ – money decides our behavior. Why do we want to get our body in shape in the first place? Why is it not in shape? What is it that we desire? What is it that we fear? Do we want to look like those ads we see endlessly streaming into our face at every turn? Do we not deem ourselves as good enough unless we have a ‘fit’ body? Will we not ‘fit in’ unless we are fit? Who is in control? Who is controlling who? What is controlling what? Why are we so oblivious?
Join a dating club? How much money does that require? How much money do you require to have in order to be an acceptable date? How much money do you require to have to even sign up for the service? How much money do you require to have to be ‘in the club’? Why do dating clubs even exist? Have we not yet learned to love ourselves? What is it that we’re looking for? What is controlling us?
We do not even know let alone love ourselves enough to stop and consider our starting point in ALL that we do to ensure that each decision that we make is made with full clarity, full integrity and full consideration with regards to ALL the relationships that are connected to our behavior – as we cannot separate ourselves from a single solitary point that is here, all that exists we are connected to, thus it is our responsibility to ensure that our connections are not CONnections where we con ourselves into beLIEving that our actions have no CONsquence.
Are you CONsidering taking a marketing course, perhaps you would like to get rid of your gun? Why? What brought you to this decision? Why do marketing courses exist? What are we peddling? Where are we going? Why do guns exist? What is our aim? When you get rid of your gun, where does it go? Does getting rid of your gun get rid of the consequences that have already manifested due to guns existing in this world? Where has our responsibility gone? Have we considered all the fighting, conflict, war, tension, hatred, possession, coercion that had to exist FIRST, within our OWN MIND, way BEFORE guns even were a thought in someone’s head to create? All the thoughts that had to shoot and kill before guns took over control to do our dirty work quicker.
As you turn out the lights at bedtime, do you consider how fortunate you are to have money to pay your electric bill? Do you consider how light bulbs are not made to last so that companies can ensure that they will keep having profit rolling in? Have you considered that these companies control your behavior? Are you aware of planned obsolescence? Are you aware that you are not exempt from this equation? Do you know all that you are surrounded by has a death date – including you? Who or what controls you behavior when you turn off that light at night? Do you have to get to bed because you have a long day of work tomorrow? Do you often just lie there thinking about all that you have to do, all that you haven’t done? Do you keep reMINDing yourself of your stresses, lying there is the dark, with your own thoughts shooting like guns, killing your expression? Do you lie there in the dark because your reading lamp has a burned-out bulb which you haven’t had time to change? Who is in control? Do you have control of your own behavior?
What is it that we are not hearing? Why do hearing aids exist? Do we deliberately over time drown out this world, shut ourselves down, damage our ability to respond effectively? When do we ‘decide’ to turn our hearing on, when do we ‘decide’ to turn our hearing off? Who is it that decides? Who is it that is in control?
Why have we created tricks in our head to remember names? Where is our self-trust? Where are our reMINDer notes? What are we forgetting? Why must we name and label everything? Why don’t we remember we are all members of this planet and thus responsible regardless if we forget the physical is proof that we have forgotten what is truth?
Did we lose control?
Where did it go?
Where did we go?
Where have we been?
To be continued…