When I looked at this I saw the following: For a child going to kindergarten is similar to us having to go to work, so in a way the kindergarten is their 'work-place' meaning that it is something they have to do on a daily basis even though they might not want to, just like we have to go to work to make money even though we don't want to. It's part of the same system of survival that we have created. So if we imagine how many of us often resist going to work, we can see how this is no different from a child. The difference is that they don't yet understand the necessity of going to kindergarten and so they express their dissatisfaction whereas we simply bite the apple and go to work because we know we have no choice. Some children function very well in the kindergarten environment and they will then not have the same resistance as others. But the thing is that the kindergarten environment, just like our work-places is set up 'one-dimensionally' in that it doesn't cater to all the children's individual needs. Often there is a very high noise level, it's chaotic and can be quite a 'brutal' experience for a little child with regards to the hierarchies between children and the lack of effective adult support - again similar to how many of us feel towards our work-places. So considering this, there's nothing 'natural' about the kindergarten environment. It is a constructed place set up specifically to have somewhere to keep the children safe while adults go to work to make money. And for most of us we simply don't have a choice. So considering this you can place yourself in the shoes of your child and have a look at what you can do to assist her to integrate more effectively into the kindergarten environment. One option would be to be with her there for a couple of days. This would also give you a chance to see how the children interact.My daughter complains every morning that she doesn't wanna go to kindergarden. She cries, screams and has all kind off excuses why she doesn't wanna go.
I think kindergarden is good for her but because she makes such drama i start to think if the kindergarden is really ok for her?
Yes definitely suggest to not use threats. The reason why threats work is because they use fear to scare the child into obedience which obviously isn't what we want for our children. If you are able to talk to your child about why she doesn't like kindergarten perhaps you will also see that there might actually be some concrete reasons, like other children being mean for example which you could possibly assist her with. One method is to ask her to draw the kindergarten and who is there and in a very open and playful way open up communication about what it is like there. Many times children will go into a 'lock down' if they feel we are interrogating them or they will tell us what they think we want to hear. So if you do it in a 'casual' way where it's not really about asking questions but about the drawing, she might open up more and you can see whether it is something you can assist her with practically or not.This morning she started again. And she couldn't stop crying. I tried everything, cuddling talking etc. Only when when i told her to stop otherwise i would pick her up later then 1 she stopped crying.
But i didn't felt good to threaten with picking her up late.
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