Yes, this has been a concern of mine because to me it looks like an obsession. When I look at his patterns, I see that this is something he does with most activities that he becomes interested in where he becomes focused on this one thing. What I have missed here is that I am reacting with worry and when I react with worry, I don't see the whole picture which is that he does have other games and learning interests and it's actually me that's obsessing over him playing video games. For instance, he likes Plants Vs. Zombies, reading, watching kids doing science projects and then applying them at home, and watching in-depth videos about the human body.So from my perspective, it's not so much about the computer game itself, but more that it's become an obsession. And then a consequence can be that he develops in a monotonous way, over-developing some skills while not developing others.
Cool that you point this out because he is keeping up with his homeschool work and he rarely if ever resists when it's time to get this done. And he assists me with other things: taking care of the kitten, getting me ingredients when I'm cooking, and picking up when I ask. He does not complain when I ask for his assistance - he simply stops what he's doing on the computer and comes out.However - when that's said, another approach entirely is to simply let him 'ride it out' - as long as it's not compromising other points/responsibilities.
He does have an interest in sports and I would like to get him playing. I'm finding that for his age (5 going on 6) that there is very little he can do with sports. In the spring, he played T-Ball and so far, that is all that I'm seeing is available for his age group. I will investigate further.So - if it is challenge he likes, give him challenge in other things as well - through challenge having him become interested in the world around him, or other activities, maybe sports.
Yeah - I like the possibilities here. Thanks! I will integrate some arts and crafts into his homeschooling curriculum. I have been so focused on the academics and getting him to read, write, and do math that I completely left out the funnest part!If he likes accomplishing things/seeing results - then as Anna suggested, build things with him, it doesn't have to be duplo and things like that, you can build useful things. There's many arts and crafts book that have some really cool ideas.
This is sometimes the case but not all times. It is as you said, "It gives me a result - I see that I accomplish things, there are results to my actions". I have seen him doing this - even at the playground where he makes challenges for himself to see how quickly he can 'make friends'. He says to me, "Hey mom - let's see how fast I can get these kids to play with me!" And then he runs off, does his thing, and gives me periodic updates, "Did you see how I did that??"If the game is a hiding place, where he's quite shy and uncomfortable with social interaction and therefore prefers playing a game.
Yes! I have been seeing toys as physical things that can be played with physically only. Seeing video games as toys simplifies what they are and assists with not making them 'the enemy' or something that is going to 'mess up my kids mind'. Another cool point here is that with my child using video games as toys, I do not have the toy mess that most parents do and I have less toys to find homes for or throw away when he's done with them.So it's probably best to see the computer games as toys and it's up to the parent for young kids to decide whether it's appropriate to play with according to your principles and therefore keep an open communication about the game/toy/play to see if it's assisting your child in it's development whether it's either relaxing or learning.
Awesome Carrie!he is keeping up with his homeschool work and he rarely if ever resists when it's time to get this done. And he assists me with other things: taking care of the kitten, getting me ingredients when I'm cooking, and picking up when I ask. He does not complain when I ask for his assistance - he simply stops what he's doing on the computer and comes out.
Awesome perspective Kelly!I realized I may as well being doing things in real life, so that I could develop skills in real life that I could then actually use. Why am I spending hours repeating the same task so that I can learn to make 'dragonhide armor' when I could be perhaps sewing in real life so that I could then make real clothes that I could actually wear, for one example. And no matter how high-level and prestigeous I was in the game, I was still the same 'loser' in real life. And I realized the more time I put into developing myself in a virtual reality, the more diminished I become in actual reality.
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