This is excellent support Carrie because in doing so you're assisting him to transform dependencies on feelings into a self expression and establishing a point of stability and self trust while correcting how the mind uses feeling dependencies to keep the relationship to the fear intact.Carrie wrote: I mean, he can hear what I'm saying but to him, what happens in his mind is just as real as anything that happens in the physical. So, what I have been doing is to show him via my actions and then following up with the words.
When we are outside at night in the dark, I move slowly and do not rush to get into the house or to where we can turn on the light. Here he sometimes will speak about specific fears that are coming up and I can direct them with common sense: yes, there are things you cannot see out here - however, it is unlikely that anything is going to get us. Let's instead breath and enjoy being in the dark together.
And sometimes, I will lay with him in his bed and suggest that we turn off the light. We talk, play with some if his toys that light up or make light patterns in the ceiling, or play games together on my phone.
I realize that it's best if I am patient with the process, breath, make sure that I'm not reacting, and simply allow myself to be there in the dark with him. It has also assisted that I have written out, self-forgiven, and walked my self-correction of the fear of the dark so that when he has points that come up I can direct them because I have walked the solution myself.
AWESOME Marja!This night she was not afraid and slept very well.
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