Cool Lana, sharing here at the forum is cool enough to get perspectives, and of course to walk your own structure - once you are busy with the child then it might be a bit more difficult to actually have the time to write, but it would be great if you can do that as part of you giving yourself some structure as to now focus on stopping your inner experiences and simply remain as breath while the whole process of giving birth and having a new baby coming becomes a reality.
Now I'll share a bit of my experience...
A note on the 'calling parents by their names' point, this is something I did implement from the beginning of my process to my parents, having had called them as 'mom' and 'dad' for over 20 years, so it is possible and the result is mostly for myself, being able to also explain why I did that was the whole point as well, to understand about the hierarchies, the inequality that is created from the moment we embody the structures of 'being the father/mother' and 'being the child.' Initially they reacted quite a lot and it's taken some years for them to get used to it - but what's most important is also for me to be able to dissociate that immediate relationship of 'family' or 'parents' and instead - even if it's apparently only the name' it was also supportive for them to see 'who they were' if I don't call them mother or father, and get to the point of comfort with talking to each other with our names.
But also as I've walked this process the entire construct of all the LACK of communication toward them because of 'them being my parents' has also vanished for the most part, and I actually enjoy talking to both about many points we learn about here at Desteni, the patterns we see in our reality, relatives and of course solutions - the same with my father when talking about the system. Like yesterday, it was such a cool thing hearing him how something that I shared with him in relation to 'blaming the government and politics and not taking self responsibility' he actually expressed that to one of his clients and so, I see once again that when we establish this communication of self-support, beyond the parenting structure, we can level ourselves out even to the point of being able to share ourselves, share our patterns existent within the mother/father and child and see the mistakes that we've all recreated in terms of how we were brought up copying the patterns that my parents got from theirs and so realizing that we have to then give ourselves the opportunity to stop such patterns and instead start establishing new ways of developing this parental relationships, even more so with them now being grandparents and seeing where these solutions can be applied to grandson and granddaughter.
So, I share this maybe a bit 'off topic' from the point of raising a child, but more as the person that even after 21 years of age established this 'calling parents by their names' point and it overall has been a cool point to walk through for myself as I've also walked my own constructs of all the emotional experiences I had attached toward them as 'mother' and 'father' and in a way, walk the self-forgiveness by starting anew and also them being aware of what Desteni is and the tools of support etc, we enjoy communicating about these points of support and what we do.
I also then got to also understand it's up to them to take the tools and apply them for themselves, but just the ability of being able to live the correction of equalizing that relationship with them, and having self-forgiven the past fuckups is definitely a way to then align ourselves to a point of equality from oneself to others. I cannot entirely speak in relation to what they also experience in relation to 'equalizing the relationship,' but it's fair enough that we have opened up a way of communicating where things are not taken personally and instead we can observe and investigate our own patterns for what they are as after all, I am still their copy that understand what they go through as well as I am them as well.
I do recommend for anyone that wants to make the point of 'calling them by their name' or if you're a parent establish such relationship with your children and you're able to explain why calling parents by their name is a point of self-support and have their parents not get only pissed off about it, cool, go for it and see whether anything changes within you or not, also in relation to not wanting to merely create friction and conflict in them, which is counterproductive if one doesn't have a clear starting point within self to do so for sure.
Thanks for sharing, everyone