Cool vlog Anthony,
A point to take into account as well is that we are copies of our parents, so this makes interacting with family a cool opportunity to understand yourself. If you react to your parents doing something in some way, for example you are annoyed by it, then you can almost be certain that you are doing the very same thing, though somewhere else in your life.
Then, another point to consider is that when we change, our relationship, and the dynamics with our family change as well. This is very clear with my mother for example, because with me, she is calm, and most of the time settled in herself. Then when my siblings come home, she tends to go into her mother-character, and also activate other personalities. So, it's clear that on some level my siblings are instigating my mother to go into a reaction – and because I have changed, and stopped most of my reactions towards my mother, I do not anymore instigate those reactions. Hence I am making my mother free to create her relationship with me again, without reactions.
Cool, thanks for your feedback Viktor.
That's interesting about the relationship/dynamics with your mother. Really cool that you were able to approach that differently and redefine her and your relationship.
Yes for me, I've seen similar change, and it really is cool. I enjoy also the more open and non-limiting conversations/expressions that I can now have with certain family members.
At the same time, some family members I've seen, despite my change of reactions and such, still show and live these behaviours that impact my own life for the worse. And it's not me reacting to these behaviours, but just being aware of them and thus aware of the limitations that they in fact have on me, my life, my process. That is why I made this video, but yeah, I'm definitely not as direct as I can be.
Still learning for sure.
I was trying to make the point of after removing reactions to one, and the behaviours STILL occurring in them, THEN it is viable in my perspective, to do something about that and 'remove' that 'link' in one way or another. And maybe it's true that I just require more change myself for the dynamics to fully change, but IF it's possible to expand my own change/process through 'removing' that link, then I'd say do it.
At the same time, I might not be able to rejoin that link with another again. Lol a few things to consider, definitely. I'll leave it here though for now.