What are your perspectives on transgender. So boys and girls who don't feel like boys or girls, as if they are born in the wrong body, and later in life sometimes have surgery to become the other sex.
What I find facinating is that this often is stated from a very young age.
My perspective at this moment is, that you first must have a concept of what a "girl" and "boy" is, a certain construct in the mind about what it means to be a boy or girl,and then judging self based on the image of being a boy or girl connected to other concepts that belongs to the gender they are not, and which to be. Because we defined that "this and that behavior" belongs to boys, and this and that to girls.
Like we create categories and then see how much we fit in it and judge ourselves based on that.
So if I would experience the feeling as if I have to be a boy, I would look at those constructs, and why I cannot be comfortable in a female body, why I would necessarily need a male body, when itnernally, I would be the same. So it is very much based on exterior appearance. And take responsibility for my reactions towards looking like a female, but actually wanting to be a male, and why I think that in my current form, I cannot have certain behavior etc...