How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

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Terren
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How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby Terren » 19 Jan 2014, 20:42

Hello.
I got caught up in a shameful kind of addiction - erotic hypnosis of the worst kind with suggestions like: "I am submissive" "I am a pet" "I am a slave".
Actually I stopped watching this stuff, however I still get these suggestions as repetitive thoughts, still get aroused by the stimuli and still feel drawn towards it. Also it seems to repress/sexualized some emotions like shame.
Can anyone help me to cure this?



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Re: How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby Anna » 19 Jan 2014, 21:49

Hello.
I got caught up in a shameful kind of addiction - erotic hypnosis of the worst kind with suggestions like: "I am submissive" "I am a pet" "I am a slave".
Actually I stopped watching this stuff, however I still get these suggestions as repetitive thoughts, still get aroused by the stimuli and still feel drawn towards it. Also it seems to repress/sexualized some emotions like shame.
Can anyone help me to cure this?
Hi Terren.

Erotic hypnosis is in essence the same as any form of mind manipulation. It is no different than praying, meditation, visualization or even how we are affected by commercials and advertisements. So it is basically about manipulating the mind into a certain state of experience. I would however be very careful with this - because it is also quite similar to 'brainwashing' whether it is something you're doing to yourself or it is something you are engaging in through listening to others. One of the reasons for this is for example that you don't know exactly how the mind integrates the suggestive phrases of 'I'm a slave' or I'm submissive' - so while the idea is merely to derive mental sexual stimulation from the hypnosis, we don't actually know how it affects the mind otherwise. So I would not suggest to play around with it.

What I will however suggest is to investigate the DIP Lite course which is a free online course where you will learn how to use writing to free yourself from exactly such mental addictions, the same you experience towards it as well as within that, come to understand how the mind functions and operates. To begin with, I suggest to look at the point of shame that you are describing, because in essence an addiction is simply an addiction - it is not in itself 'shameful'. So the shame-aspect is something that you yourself is attaching to the addiction - and in order for you to effectively stop the addiction it is necessary to release this shame that you have connected to it.

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If you have any specific questions, you are welcome to place them in the Ask a Destonian thread. You can also open up a thread in the writing yourself to freedom section and in the members blogs section where you can place your writings and blogs.

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Re: How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby Marlen » 19 Jan 2014, 22:20

Hi Terren, welcome to the forum.

I agree with what Anna has shared here, it's certainly no different to any other form of brainwashing/self-programming that we create when we connect certain thoughts, ideas, beliefs, images with Experiences - like emotions or feelings - that we create about such thoughts, ideas, images, pictures, play-outs/fantasies, etc.

So, I also suggest walking the DIP Lite course as there you'll learn step by step how to work with 'deprogramming' yourself by the power of your own words which means nothing else but getting to know how you created this situation for you and how to practically stop it by designing corrections that will support you in stopping the pattern and also assist you in standing once again as the one that decides what you participate or not in your mind and reality.

You're at the right place to begin with writing more about your experience here, which is definitely no different to any other addictions or obsessions we create toward virtually anything, so when you get to understand how you operate as your mind, it becomes easy to see the solutions as well.



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Re: How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby Carrie » 20 Jan 2014, 04:42

Hey Terren - welcome to the forum. Really cool support here from Anna and Marlen. Thanks.



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Re: How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby sandymac » 21 Jan 2014, 22:35

Hi Terren

Yup great support here. I was just going to add the mind will definitely 'take you where you want to go', so with working the desteni tools you,which you will learn about in dip lite (perhaps, in time, dip pro) you can literally 'change your mind', as in re-program it. It takes time/effort and dedication/determination. Then you will see you do not need to fear your mind/yourself. That is one of the awesome gifts I have found here! There is nothing worse than fearing yourself/feeling helpless about 'the way you are'.

Cool you are here, there are so many solutions here, for yourself personally and for all; people/animals/plants!



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Re: How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby Kristina » 28 Jan 2014, 04:59

Hey Terran - cool you are here and looking for ways to support yourself.

Welcome!



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Re: How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby Rebecca Dalmas » 28 Jan 2014, 06:11

Hello Terren, Welcome to the forum. Cool support here. The DIPLite course walks looking at emotions and feelings and thoughts as a programmed mind that directs us within limitations that are chasing an energetic high in abdication of directing ourselves as life here. So, we bring our thoughts back to ourselves realize the separation from being self directive here, as life.



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Re: How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby sylvia » 28 Jan 2014, 09:36

Hi Terren cool to have you here on the forum!

And yes cool support guys, it can be quite disruptive to your day to day living to have an addiction to this in essence sexual energy, which you've created to connect certain energies to certain words. As said before you are most likely not able to oversee yet what it implies to connect shame to sexual energy/pleasure or any other connections between emotions and feelings and words. We mostly find out what it means when we;re confronted by the consequences that flow from it. The one thing you can start with right away, is write about it, write out every detail that you remember of how it happened and how it developed. Then you can go through your writings and see for yourself what you've manifested. This writing procedure and seeing where things developed, sounds of course quite easy, though most of the time we do not see what's right under our nose. So you can open a thread in the writing yourself to freedom section as Anna suggested. That way we can assist and support you with your writings and how to look at it from the perspective of prevention. How to prevent you to (re)create the same situation again or not being able to stop it.

There is also a topic on this forum about addiction, that might give you some insight into the addiction part.

There is a whole series about what is sex of which the first ones are free on Eqafe and a free series on masturbation.

Please do let us know where you need assistance and support and if the things we've suggested do make sense to you.



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Re: How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby Matti Freeman » 23 Feb 2014, 02:02

Investigate / identify the specific energetic experiences as arousal / eroticism that are triggered --as the addiction / desire to participate in the experiences is because of the value you've placed in the experience / energy

for example - why many find quitting porn to be so difficult -- is because one is simply not letting go / giving up the VALUE one has placed in the Energy that is triggered / activated like --- 'I like this energy so I'm going to keep doing it'

one has to decide what has Value to participate in / give attention to



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Re: How to cure erotic hypnosis addiction?

Postby Matti Freeman » 23 Feb 2014, 02:09

also with the addiction -- in giving up / stopping the behavior / participation within the energy -- one is then faced with the point of -- well I don't 'know' what to do now -- there's an absence of stimulation and that has been defined / judged as 'lacking' / 'not enough' -- and so one will then be tempted to go back to the energy because it is 'something to experience'

it's this point where expression / living / enjoyment has been defined completely in separation of Self through / within Energy---- which is so EASY TO DO because all you have to do is find the idea / picture / fantasy that activates / stimulates the Energy and - Voila! Instant entertainment / pleasure

A point I realized in relation to Energy related to sex / arousal experience as triggered by pictures / thoughts, etc --- is that the arousal / energy experience is not actually coming up 'by itself' --- when I slow down and observe what's happening I can see I am Allowing myself to Create the energy by Deciding to experience it -- instead of immediately stopping, breathing, letting go / releasing it




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