2011 - Emotional Turmoil as Radical Reaction within a Relationship
One will find that for instance if you get to a point where you've been in a relationship and then the relationship ends, whether marriage or otherwise, or any other form of a relationship, even in relation due to death, that one will go in a form of an energetic shock which you can call emotional turmoil.
We have done videos on this aspect before, but one must understand in your self-honest investigation what is really going on, because first of all emotional turmoils are based on an external stimulus. And it is activating something inside you which you are obviously not in charge of. So it is activating whatever system you have created within which you are dependent in some way on the other person.
And when one look at that context one start to realize that obviously if you are experiencing emotional turmoil there are parts of your inner self that you don't even know about, because it’s now suddenly reacting.
So that is a very cool way to find out about these dependencies and these inner constructs.
And within the context of one's reaction when somebody dies it will take on a variation of reactions. It will be either sadness, anger, fear, sudden re-dedication to Jesus, what ever, I mean whatever point happens there will indicate where you have placed your hope and your support outside yourself.
In terms of relationships that then in terms of marriage and other relationships one will find that emotional turmoil you go through are based on the dependency you’ve placed on the other person. That means the actual agreement or relationship were none one of equals, it was unequal from the perspective that both parties or at least one of the parties depended on the other party, or one of the parties or both will manipulating the other party, and therefore there was an energetic exchange and there was system created in which context energy was created that created the illusion of stability, and the illusion of strength, and the illusion that all your stuff is taken care of.
But in the actual mind backchat something else was happening, and that was never seen as the actual problem that it is.
Therefore you have to within the context of your emotional turmoil also to look at the backchat you had during the term of your [relationship]..., the time before the event happened, or during the term of the marriage.
You will see that you had particular forms of backchat: suppressed angers, fear constructs, deliberate manipulations, a lot of things will be really nasty that was happening, where one in fact would have proved that you really never actually loved the person, you were only acting from a perspective of dependency and trying to survive in this world, and that you used love and the place where you used the words ‘love’, you used it as a manipulation.
If you have emotional turmoil within the context of somebody before you are even in a relationship with them then obviously you are creating within your own mind and the construct an energetic entity that somehow requires a particular form of belief which you are busy conjuring up.
None of it is really real because you are all doing it within yourself and whatever you put your focus on as potential partner you are generating that energy and you have not understood the symbolism of the person or or who they are within their process, or who you are within your process.
Therefore you will have in many cases a form of a stand-off.
What is fascinating that one will normally in the context of polarity end up with a person that initially tells you 'No', because they have to tell you 'No' to discharge their fears and than you have to walk through all their fears and than they will change because you still there in spite of it. And you start to feel like, oh maybe you can trust them, meanwhile it was simply just a polarity-system-discharge, none of it was real, if you were breathing and actually from the beginning working within the context of the equality equation you would've been able to assess the value added nature of an alliance whether it will work effectively or not.
If one look for some form of feeling then obviously you shouldn't be in a relationship or even look at one. There should be no feeling, there should be no emotion moving.
It should be a calculated alliance based on what's best for all within which there is only one result: the ability to come to a sense or a state of equilibrium with ease, where both is supporting each other and you do not build extensive or excessive energies that requires discharge, because if you do build energies extensively and it continues to reoccur there is a problem.
If your backchat do not go silent then obviously [there is] a problem.
If one of the partners are not extremely versed in how these things work the agreement will simply fail. It will fall based on the accumulative effect of the backchat and the resonant energetic build-ups.
So if one have an effect and we are experiencing an effect of a buildup before or after the ending of a relationship and you have emotional turmoil one of the treatments for yourself is obviously to write about it, but you will find in most cases you are not versed enough, you are not effective enough to truly take the thing apart, therefore it will reoccur - I suggest one first go for a kinesiology session, where you are treated for survival mode.
You specifically ask the kinesiologist to do a survival mode diffusion, because you are now.., because you are regular feeding ground of energy or you’re potential feeding ground of energy or the potential point of having an agreement that will feed your energy, and your Ego has been exposed, and therefore you feel marginalized, or your position is weakened and you feel you’re not as strong as you can be, you have the energy or you have lost your regular support, which is your energetic feed and you go into the addictive withdrawal part of the energy - because remember all energy are addictive, its a form of a drug - then you require a particular or an effective discharge and you are normally not going to be in a position to do that for yourself because i mean, you are addicted, just like when you are addicted to any form of drug: you need intervention.
So then go to a kinesiologist for the necessary interventions, start writing, join us at Desteni, so you can have support and learn how to breath effectively, because obviously you are not effectively supporting yourself, you are dependent on others.
And yes in a way in this world there is a dependency of others, but that dependency is within the context of the physical reality - the food we eat, the way we live, the resources of the planet - that is the real interdependence - it’s not based on energy. The new systems that we are proposing is based on the physical reality, not on the energetic reality and the feeling reality.
And obviously you are being misled about the whole issue of feelings by the media, consumerism and those that are in charge of the resources, because they don’t want you to compete for the resources. They want control and they want you as a slave. They want a means where they know that you apparently have a choice and therefore it’s your own fault that you are a slave. And therefore they will keep you in that condition no matter what, and they will manage your consciousness - which is your energetic body - with great ease through world events, through media, through entertainment, through belief, through religion, through education and you won’t even notice because you are believing within the context of your own mind - because the only reality you have from that perspective is in your own mind - you believe that everything is real and it’s all god or some higher force, while that is not really so.
And you will have no idea how the physical reality in fact actually operates. You’ll just work and do your slave work and then you will go and give your money, that you apparently earned for your living, while all of it is part of the enslavement point - and you don’t even know where it all comes from.
You’ll even have an opportunity to become wealthy and think that that is actually success and that was a positive life, when that is all just enslavement - you have no idea what is really going on.
So - emotional turmoil in relationships are a great indicator that you have within you systems, entities, personalities, needs, addictions that you are not in charge of and that is controlling the outcome of your existence.
That is a serious condition that requires assistance and if one finds somebody that has this kind of scenarios or react like that, obviously you need to intervene, because the person becomes unpredictable.
[Be] also careful for any form of rebound. If you had a recent ending of an agreement or a marriage and you start to act out of character - that means that you start to immediately look for, or in time look for another partner and you become quite possessive - you are in rebound, its dangerous!
You cannot move into these points unless you have properly healed from your addictions. You always would have had some form of addiction. Make first sure that you have truly clearly dealt with the issue.
If you have not self-honestly written out the context of why your agreement or your relationship failed and how YOU caused it, NOT the other partner - you are the participant that caused it, it is never about the other partner - you caused it, your backchat made you to make the decision to break the agreement, unless you can get to that self-honest point and clearly sort that out and are willing to share that unconditionally with your next possible victim - because mostly it will be a victim, because you are in rebound - then you are manipulating deliberately and careful how you do that, because that will cause harm and when that point falls you will be seen as evil and as really dangerous.
So first heal properly, don’t just go into another agreement, because that is really dangerous from the perspective of the perception of those involved in it and also the fact that you don’t have the necessary skill to deal with your emotional contraptions that has trapped you within this reality.
And most of the contraptions are always based on fear, that’s why you live in a reality of at-most-fear and in that most fear something must die so that you can live, and you’re looking to feed all the time, that is why you breathe oxygen and then you kill the oxygen and it becomes carbon dioxide, because the oxide dies in the process of you feeding of the emittance of the trees and the plants.
I mean the trees and the plants are emitting their... shit. You know, it’s after they’ve processed all the material, it’s like their shit that they emit, which is oxygen and the various forms of chemicals and you breathe and eat or live from that.
Obviously just because you give something a name you’re not looking at the context makes you believe that it is all fine, but your are in a reality which is called atmospheric - it’s got at-most-fear - everything works in polarity and the fear makes you move. You are always trying to get away from the negative polarity, trying to get to the positive polarity.
That’s the apparent flow of life and you have accepted that apparently as the conditions or the way that life functions, strange enough that is not how it really works, that is just how the system works - but who cares, who is going to listen.
You’re going to need some really nice treatment from the system to wake up from this delusion that you have become part of, oh dear positive thinker! But don’t worry it’s all at your service and we will take you through the necessary turmoil to realize yourself unless you obviously leave your position before the end. Which means you die before you die and then that’s got a problem because that means that the second death becomes so much more possible.
Anyway make sure that you do not become the victim of emotional turmoil or of the rebound, because I mean after all the rebound is the point where one feel you are ready for somebody else - that feeling already sparks a red flag, because you are looking for energy, you are looking for love, you are looking for a feeling, you are looking for a soul mate, you are looking for a twin flame and that will drive you insane and then you will claim that everything is beautiful and lovely and this world is fine.
And you will lay the foundations that you can have your victim that you are ensnaring in your trap of love, and you will claim that everything is love and that you look for your soul mate, and you’re looking for your twin flame and nobody dare to be negative around you, and you’ll clean up your reality and only have positive people around you, because you are the positive person within your twin flame / soul mate relationship and you want somebody committed and you will trap them in every possible way and then you will get them!
And the romance and the experience will be wonderful and you will share it with everyone, because what you are trying to do is - you are trying to cement the position as permanent until you die - so at least you can say ‘I had a wonderful life with a wonderful partner’ - but in that you have been apart from everything else, completely focused on just having one person as your captivating captive in a condition of your so called desire of love and twin flames and soul mates and you end up being in fact nothing more than a vampire - sucking energy or blood - a blood-sucker, trying to keep your prey in check.
And therefore you will join religions and you’ll pray with them so that you can hear what they are saying to make sure that you are manipulating their backchat / secret mind as much as possible, through all kinds of ways.
Meantime the whole world is going for a bowl of shit and you don’t give a fuck, because you’ve got your prey. Is there anything different to an insect or a spider that traps somebody in a web and then put them and roll them up and spin them up because they can eat them later? I mean that is the same you are doing with your so called partner, your twin flame and your soul mate. You trap them in that kind of position because you are both looking for the same thing. The symbolic interaction, the resonant design of this is that you end up just as an insect.
I mean the sum of… it’s really sectarian, isn’t it. And it’s like you’re trying to control what is said in the inner self of the being, which is the secret mind, making sure that you will never get to self-honesty. You don’t care about the world, you have to accept the nature of the world as it exists now - so you can’t consider an equal life system and an equal money system, because you’re trapped in your whole thing of having twin flame / soul mate / love thing - your addictions to your energies.
It’s a fascinating thing, so many are screwed - hehehehehehe [laughing] - anyway, so in terms of the Desteni-I-Process, the Structural Resonance Alignment the people in the course will be walking a one year program just on agreements / relationships with their resonances. That is being fast-tracked so it will start sooner because there is so many problems in people - you know, busy currently with their agreements and obviously they are not all in a position to make it work effectively.
There are so many unseen evil entities running around, chatting in the secret mind - so many fears, emotions, uncertainties, worries, concerns, judgments, comparisons - you name it - the whole barrage of bullshit that one use in the definition of your evil self.
And therefore you cannot live fully in this world and you’re only a shadow of what you can be. And those shadows we need to now find so we can get the fears out, so you can truly stand as life and not be scared by this system or the ways that you have scared yourself into the shadow self.
Fascinating stuff, make sure you investigate Desteni - or miss your destiny… You decide.