Hi guys, its Larry here,
I was wondering if the portal can give perspective on people whom are polyamorous. I am having a kind of relationship with someone that is or is saying she is polyamorous, I copy and paste here a definition of this word, for those of whom do not know what it means and what it entails.
Means "Many Loves". It means having multiple commited relationships with people you are mutally in love with, and everyone wants it to be that way.
This is not to be confused with swinging or multiple relationships, where you are sleeping with the other people or they are friends with bennies, whom you love. That is called non-monogamy, and to say it is polyamory is a lie.
"I told Brad I'm in love with him, and my husband Rick is very happy for us."
"No, we're polyamorous. You can only cheat on rules that exist. We don't have an agreement to be exclusive. But an example of me cheating would be to not tell Rick that I'm in love, because the rule of honesty is right up there with the rule that the primary relationship comes first"
"I could never do that. I'm too jealous"
"Are you sleeping with both these guys?"
"Now that I'm in love with both of them, yes. But you don't have to be having sex to be polyamorous, because what it means is that you are mutually in love with more than one person at a time. Most people do sleep with those they love, but sex is not what makes you poly"
I was wondering if there can be an interview done about this design of the mind, because in a way it looks like someone who is polyamorous, is someone whom does not want to take responsibility to be committed with only 1 person. Because when one is " in love" with many, it is easier to stand up again and be " in love," because one have many that one is in love with, it is easier to let go of one of them. When i have a look at it, i find it to be someone that is fearing being alone in some sense, but i do not know how deep this runs. For example the person I am with, that is living in this way, starting doing this after her divorce with her husband and it was not the reason she divorced. So it is like she suddenly decided after that, that is how she wanted to be in relationships, so there is a shift somewhere. So to support her and myself better I would like to have an interview about the design of this polyamorous thingy, and try and understand why people living like this really are living like this, what is the purpose behind it, and what is the design actually for when it comes to relationships?