This is what I wrote:Also, one last point, when I was reading Michelle message, I was wary that perhaps there was a compromise being made. So the point of concern is how you communicate your problem with your partner. Because I have experience the point where in relationship I would communicate my problems to my partner, but I made it out to be as if it is something that they must solve. But if the problem is with my emotions, then it is not my partner's responsibility but mine. So that is something that I could walk with self-forgiveness. The danger that I see is that partners may just talk about their problems, and compromise by changing themselves to make their partner feel better. That happens all the time. So I just wanted to make sure that that wasn't accepted and allowed within Michelle's words.
My partner and I are walking a process of taking responsibility of our reactions, and when there is a problem that another has of each other, we talk it out and see where it originates and from there, look for common sensical/practical solutions. Like my partner reacted to my money spending habits, we talked about it, he saw programming from his father and I saw programming from my mother, and from there we both talked about how we can change when it comes to money and how to take care of our finances practically/in the best way possible.So we agreed to always talk to one another if there is a problem in our relationship or we require support from one another on a point, but we must be stable, cause if we are emotional talking about these points they will influence the discussion and outflow as a whole.
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