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Re: Joseph's writings

Postby Anna » 01 May 2014, 08:42

Joseph Stein wrote:This is where my realization of how dating my journal entries could support me to see exactly how long I stood for and how long I have fallen for.
4/7/2014

Wow I was looking at all of the days I missed my writings. (lol thats all I wrote)


lol Yea, I wouldn't suggest to do that. I mean, what's the purpose with counting how long you've stood or fallen? Something that I have found in my process is a tendency to mistake self-judgment for self-honesty. So when I was being really hard on myself and striking down with moral judgment upon myself I would feel 'good' about it because I thought I was being self-honest. But I really wasn't. Because I stayed there, in that 'zone'. And then I pitied myself and then I gave up... and then the cycle started over again.

So to me, redefining my relationship with self-judgment was an important step, where I realized how I was using it to sabotage and manipulate myself in/as the mind, whereas when I was 'in' the judgment I experienced myself as righteous and victimized and thus didn't want to leave that experience. So in redefining self-honesty it became about focusing on supporting myself 'constructively' if you will, to: see the point -> forgive the point -> correct the point. So you can have a look and see if this is something that resonates with what you're experiencing and whether you can utilize it to support yourself.

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Re: Joseph's writings

Postby Joseph Stein » 01 May 2014, 08:44

4/10/2014

I realized that my reactions are happening more often because I have to face them. Then I realized that everything that I have to face is on its way. I would rather be prepared then be unprepared when that happens because I will be lost. I think I am lost but I also think I dont know what being lost really is. I mean if I dont take self-responsiblity now and go through the pain now then what will I do when everything builds up and crashes down on me? How will I stand? I would rather get through my ugly shit right now. I dont think I will get prepared enough I mean I never was prepared for any of this. Im just scared to go through the ugly shit you know? To face myself lol. But I just have to walk and apply. So this I will add to my list. (Get through the ugly shit now. Better now than later)

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Re: Joseph's writings

Postby Joseph Stein » 01 May 2014, 08:56

Yeah thats a cool point I didnt notice. I mean I kind of did because I would get a happy reaction when looking at my journal but I breathed through it but when I seen how much I havent wrote for I did judge myself for that as in "oh man look at how bad Iam doing" so thanks for the input. But I have had trouble listening to my mind and mistaking it for real progress with dating I feel like I can keep track of the actual work being done on myself because Iam not at the point where I can tell self-observation from mind thinking. So I like to use it in that way.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself for judging myself as doing bad when I see how many days I have not wrote for and applied myself to the tool of writing myself out.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself for being proud of myself and feeling happy when I see how many days I have wrote for and applied myself to the tool of writing myself out.

I commit myself to when and as I look at my writing to see how many days I have/havent wrote and experience emotions/feelings of doing bad and feeling proud, I stop and breathe.

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Re: Joseph's writings

Postby Marlen » 01 May 2014, 15:20

Iam not at the point where I can tell self-observation from mind thinking. So I like to use it in that way.


When writing yourself, simply look at it as writing what's existing within you, without having the need to identify whether it's self-observation or mind-thinking because both are in fact mind-processes, though of course in self-observation it is you directing the realizations from the mind-thinking, the mind patterns. So, here It's about realizing that through practice in your writings you'll get to recognize where it is you supporting yourself as self-observation and where you are simply describing what usually goes on in the mind as a pattern, how the experiences exist.

So yes, as everything it is a process, takes time and actual doing - so with this, what I mean is that time is another frame with which to 'measure' yourself but certainly this process you can be writing for years and nothing changing, because writing is the platform for change, but the actual change comes through practically and physically living it - so that's a point to consider in terms of dates/time-frames and how to instead focus on the physical-practical application: you taking your words to change.

Also a suggestion here

I commit myself to when and as I look at my writing to see how many days I have/havent wrote and experience emotions/feelings of doing bad and feeling proud, I stop and breathe.


What you can first write out is a Self Corrective Statement, then it would be like


When and as I look at my writing and see how many days I have or haven't written and experience emotions/feelings of doing bad and/or feeling proud, I stop and I breathe, I direct myself to simply begin writing as a point of self-support that doesn't require positive or negative experiences to it.

I realize that creating emotions or feelings about writing or not writing is still only a positive or negative experience within my mind and that I do in fact do not require an emotional or negative experience to write in itself. I also see that I have to consider how I am motivating myself to write based on negative or positive experiences, which are actually limitations for me to simply move myself physically to write and at the same time do not go into judgment when I haven't written, but instead realize how writing is a tool of support to establish self-movement and self-direction, and so I see it as a point of support that I can use to support me, which doesn't require a positive or negative experience.

I commit myself to write and direct myself to do it as a point of support without creating either positive or negative experiences through it, as I realize that writing is a tool of self support wherein I am structuring myself through words to actually live the corrections, which is the actual application of my writings in my day to day living.





So, see how first comes the self-corrective statement which is the one moment where you will change the pattern and give yourself a new direction, which in this case is simply not creating either a positive/happiness experience or a negative/self judgment experience for not writing out. So that's how we create our polarities from doing or not doing things and it's definitely a tricky point, as we have to also walk the point of being able to motivate ourselves, to become our own motive to act, to move without expecting a positive or negative reward, which is quite ingrained from school system and parenting reinforcement such as getting a prize for doing something or not getting it.

I found this blog by Cerise most supportive to understand more on this too: The Value of Validation


And so the commitment is more of a general direction that you are then committing yourself to live, in this case how you will then from here on commit to write without creating a positive or negative experience and if experiences/thoughts still come up, then you stop for a moment and actually first begin writing out the thoughts, the experience, either the positive or negative experiences you're getting at the moment of beginning to write, so that you can then clear your starting point of writing and so then focus on the actual point/topic you were going to initially going to write about.


Thanks for sharing, Joseph

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Re: Joseph's writings

Postby Joseph Stein » 07 May 2014, 23:45

Thank you for the suggestions Marlen. At first I was reactive to your words and Anna's words because I was thinking "they have a misunderstanding of what Im saying" and "Im not actually doing that" (looking for the positive feeling=reward and then when I don't get the positive feeling/reward I have a emotional reaction=judging myself for not being able to stand) But looking at my words I can see it. I have actually been looking at this point and I can see it is quite extensive in my life and within my process. I will come back to this point though.

What I meant is that when I am not writing and I am going about my day I notice things and I cant tell weather its me simply looking at myself and directing my awareness or if it is reactive thoughts and that Ive had a problem with listening to my mind and mistaking it for progress. That why I write because I view writing exactly as you said it
Marlen wrote:When writing yourself, simply look at it as writing what's existing within you, without having the need to identify whether it's self-observation or mind-thinking
but yes I do need to let go of using dates and viewing it as real progress and such because real progress is applying yourself in the moment(practically and physically living it) and so I should only use the dates as organizational purposes and nothing more to it.

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Re: Joseph's writings

Postby Joseph Stein » 08 May 2014, 00:35

Ive been wanting to write about this point lately and I have been holding it off for another time but I already know that "another time" will never come so Im here. The point is about my jobs and how I put so much burden on myself and it starts to weigh down on me till eventually I cant take it anymore.

I wrote about this in my DIP lite and I want to take care of this point because I have to get to a point of financial stability so I can support myself in the current system. But yeah this is what I wrote on my DIP lite.

Everytime I have a job I am happy. I come home happy and I leave home happy. I get to work happy and I leave work happy. Im just a happy fuck lol. Then every job I have had I have either gotten fired because of no-call-no-show or I have walked out because I get to the point where I say fuck this and fuck you manager you deal with this shit.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel happy because I got a job.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel happy when a manager or boss says Ive done a good job.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself think "yeah I going into work im going to get compliments, Iam going to do the best I can do and yeah I so cool and happy"

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to place this mask over me when I am at work that says I dont bring emotions to work and I am just here to work and that I dont take problems at work seriously and that I am okay, when really to whole time I am slowly but surely falling.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to say yes without any consideration and to later regret saying yes becuase then I feel I am getting fucked by the bosses.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself for trying to play this character where I am an extra-ordinary worker because I want to impress everyone.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself for going through great lengths to impress people that really begin to wear me down and catch up to me as I cannot sustain my mask all the time of being a happy fuck and a extra-ordinary worker.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself by saying that I am a happy fuuck because I think I am stupid for acting that way.

I commit myself to when and as I notice that I am playing/putting on a mask/playing the character of being and happy person and an extra-ordinary worker so I can get reconition when I know I cannot sustain the image/picture/behavior, I stop and breathe.

So when I get a job I want to impress other by being the one worker whos just really on his A game. Theres these moment where my boss will come up to me and ask me to do something and I really feel one way but I will say yes without even considering if I will be able to keep up with the task or what effect it will have on me and then only later I start thinking "this mother fucker is taking advantage of me" and I start hating my job slowly everyday more and more. I don't show any of this to anyone and I don't express it up until I have made to decision to walk out. It just feels like massive weight on my shoulders and like im choking and I cant breath and I want to say something but Im afraid if I say anything something bad wil happen and then Im lost in my stance and I don't know what to do and then I start thinking "fuck this shit this isn't worth it for what Iam making". Man ALOT of reactions go on and ALOT of internal conversations happen within me. Then its like I want to get back at my bosses because I start blaming them for what is happening to me and I think "they are doing it to me". I always seem to be over worked and only later to find out that I am the one getting paid the least and then I start thinking "this mother fucker has been lying to my face with every compliment because he know I am doing above and beyond work and he knows I am getting paid the least". I don't even ask for a raise because I don't know how to approach my boss because I have all of these emotions and thoughts going on inside of me. I picture in my head going into the office and getting everything off of my chest and then there being a HUGE argument. I think Its best to keep my mouth shut and suck it up.

This is another DIP lite lesson of mine and it has to do with jobs and thinking fuck the bosses and all that. So its a part of this pattern so I will post it.

I remember one day I went into work and it was super super busy. I mean the mosy busy day of the year lol- mothers day.... So yeah I came in I asked my boss to clock me in and he got mad and said I can clock you in later and adjust the hours so I said okay. But he kept running his mouth coming in the back to the dishwashing area and kept talking about that. I was already to work but he just wouldnt shut his fuucking mouth so I got pissed off and I started arguing with him and then he said something like fine then leave because I can run this kitchen myself so I said fuck you to him in front of all the employees and it was an open kitchen so the customer probly heard everything and I walked out.

I forgive myself for not allowing myself to consider that my boss is going through a hectic time because it was literally the busiest day of the year and that he wasnt "himself" so to speak.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to react to his behavior in anger.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself for feeling like I had to say something to him so I can defend myself.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing past experiences with my boss that contributed to the situation and was actuually a form of revenge because of all the little moments that led uup to this one.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to throw away my form of self-support away because I was mad.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to take his words "I can run this kitchen myself" as offensive and then thinking "fine lets see you do it".

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to hate my boss and take the decisions hes made personally.

I forgive myself for not allowing myself to consider that he is also in survival mode and that he just wants to make sure he keeps his job because he went through the "hustling years" to get to where he is at.

Within all of this I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to percieve myself as a badass because I was "that gay that went there" that everybody wants to see and so I set it up where we were infont of all the employees so I could say fuck you and walk out.

I commit myself to when and as I feel like walking out because I want to get back at my boss and look like a badass, I stop and breathe. I realize im fucking insane and this is completely dumb and Im the only one to pay the price at the end of the day.

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Re: Joseph's writings

Postby Marlen » 08 May 2014, 16:45

Joseph Stein wrote:I've been wanting to write about this point lately and I have been holding it off for another time but I already know that "another time" will never come so Im here. The point is about my jobs and how I put so much burden on myself and it starts to weigh down on me till eventually I cant take it anymore.

I wrote about this in my DIP lite and I want to take care of this point because I have to get to a point of financial stability so I can support myself in the current system. But yeah this is what I wrote on my DIP lite.

Everytime I have a job I am happy. I come home happy and I leave home happy. I get to work happy and I leave work happy. Im just a happy fuck lol. Then every job I have had I have either gotten fired because of no-call-no-show or I have walked out because I get to the point where I say fuck this and fuck you manager you deal with this shit.


Hi Joseph, cool you're opening this point here

So what I suggest considering is how you have participated in energy - meaning emotions and feelings - in relation to the job situation you're in. For example, the happiness could be simply a stability based on having a job and so having that financial stability, however as you've explained, you get happy upon positive reinforcement such as you explain here

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to feel happy when a manager or boss says Ive done a good job.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself think "yeah I going into work im going to get compliments, I am going to do the best I can do and yeah I so cool and happy"


I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to say yes without any consideration and to later regret saying yes because then I feel I am getting fucked by the bosses.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself for trying to play this character where I am an extra-ordinary worker because I want to impress everyone.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself for going through great lengths to impress people that really begin to wear me down and catch up to me as I cannot sustain my mask all the time of being a happy fuck and a extra-ordinary worker.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to judge myself by saying that I am a happy fuuck because I think I am stupid for acting that way.



You'd have to ask yourself why do you want to impress everyone? Is it to get better pay? because it makes you feel superior? Because it makes you feel accepted? or admired? or just because you want to 'show others how to do it' type of situation? See because that's where we also begin limiting ourselves in our expression in whichever aspect of our reality we with, when we start considering Others first and how 'They' see us instead of taking responsibility for doing things for ourselves, as a point of self movement, without seeking validation, recognition as a 'good experience' within you - and so be able to write out self forgiveness and self corrective statements for that which is also important in terms of being able to give direction to you now that you are realizing the 'truth' of the matter.


So this commitment here

I commit myself to when and as I notice that I am playing/putting on a mask/playing the character of being and happy person and an extra-ordinary worker so I can get reconition when I know I cannot sustain the image/picture/behavior, I stop and breathe.


If the correction was only 'stopping and breathing' it would be very easy to 'change' but that's not how it actually works. So you can instead write something like 'When and as I notice that I am playing/putting on a mask/playing the character of being a happy person an an extra-ordinary worker so I can get recognition - I stop and I breathe - I realize that this is a pattern of me seeking recognition in order to get the good experience that I've defined as happiness and so it mean that I am defining my work according to how I want others to see it and tell me 'how good it is' instead of doing it for myself.

I commit myself to remain as breath while working and continuing to be effective in what I do from the starting point of doing the best job I can for myself, as part of my integrity, the dedication that I want to live in my work - not for the sake of getting recognition from others.




Therefore what happens here is that you then have conditioned yourself to want to obtain this positive feedback to keep the perceived positive/good side of the mind-experience which you've defined as happiness - and so that's why you actually burden yourself with taking more things to do in order to maintain that 'high' of an experience simply to continue having that positive feedback, or maybe to get more money if your performance does translate into more money in your case. However this is actually the facade, the mask as you call it to not actually see and face the reality of what you Actually experience and that you simply try and 'keep up' with the positive experience, which is why you 'over-do' yourself in order to just continue feeling 'good' and avoid looking at the negative which are in fact the emotions that you Do experience, but mostly are suppressing, as you've mentioned here


I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to place this mask over me when I am at work that says I dont bring emotions to work and I am just here to work and that I dont take problems at work seriously and that I am okay, when really to whole time I am slowly but surely falling.




So what happens is that when we 'shove things aside' as if they don't matter, and continue wanting to pretend that 'everything is fine,' those emotions get suppressed but not gone - all that energy that comes with such backchat is still within you, because you haven't deal with it. So this is why you're so 'worn out,' because it's like trying to maintain a high while the reality of your emotional experiences is going in the opposite way, which is why you get to the point where it eventually 'weighs you down' which means that one is participating in an energy-mode and 'fighting' to keep your 'high' while pretending that you're ok and 'not emotional.' So within realizing this, it is also to come to understand that the job in itself is not the burden, the job in itself might be 'rough' at times - you'd have to decide that - meaning in terms of the challenges, the deadlines, the physical work it might require, but what wears us out is mostly the energy participation in it, and this implies both positive and negative, because even physically demanding work is able to be done breath by breath.






So when I get a job I want to impress other by being the one worker whos just really on his A game. Theres these moment where my boss will come up to me and ask me to do something and I really feel one way but I will say yes without even considering if I will be able to keep up with the task or what effect it will have on me and then only later I start thinking "this mother fucker is taking advantage of me" and I start hating my job slowly everyday more and more. I don't show any of this to anyone and I don't express it up until I have made to decision to walk out. It just feels like massive weight on my shoulders and like im choking and I cant breath and I want to say something but Im afraid if I say anything something bad wil happen and then Im lost in my stance and I don't know what to do and then I start thinking "fuck this shit this isn't worth it for what Iam making". Man ALOT of reactions go on and ALOT of internal conversations happen within me. Then its like I want to get back at my bosses because I start blaming them for what is happening to me and I think "they are doing it to me". I always seem to be over worked and only later to find out that I am the one getting paid the least and then I start thinking "this mother fucker has been lying to my face with every compliment because he know I am doing above and beyond work and he knows I am getting paid the least". I don't even ask for a raise because I don't know how to approach my boss because I have all of these emotions and thoughts going on inside of me. I picture in my head going into the office and getting everything off of my chest and then there being a HUGE argument. I think Its best to keep my mouth shut and suck it up.


Here you are describing the actual backchat which I suggest you take one by one to investigate when does this backchat come up, why does this backchat exist within me? what is it indicating me about my participation with others at work? Am I blaming others for how 'they' make me feel? Where am I not taking responsibility for what I experience?

The reason why you feel like you have this burden is all the emotions that you've accumulated and not actually released through self-forgiveness and practical application, which means Not participating in the same backchat once that you have actually first investigated these thoughts and experiences. Because what happens is that the more you layer these experiences within you, the more they become automated and so it will also require equal consistency of backchat participation to stop them, to be able to take on through self forgiveness each backchat and see who are you blaming for your experience? why are you burdening yourself? What are you wanting to 'get' from these interactions?

Once you first face, dissect and take responsibility for the accumulation of emotions around this point, you'll be able to have more clarity as to how you can have a normal stable conversation about your wage if you do see that it's definitely not enough - but if you get to ANY person or any boss with such 'tough' attitude of 'fuck this shit' lol obviously they are going to kick your ass out because in this system we've made ourselves replaceable and so, no one will really have the heart to investigate 'your anger' and make your wage higher just so that you can keep your job! That doesn't happen in this world as it exists now - so it's for the best that you begin sorting out your own emotional situation here so that you can THEN in stability be able to practically assess the financial situation in relation to wages - but, I definitely suggest you avoid bursting out like that memory you explained again, because that will simply become a pattern of you 'burdening yourself up' with so many things in Your mind and so blame the boss, blame the job and quit - which will repeat and repeat until you sort yourself out.

Here I definitely recommend listening to: Annoyance: Reactions in Your Workplace - Atlanteans - Part 191

Annoyance: Learning Something New - Atlanteans - Part 192

Annoyance: Change Yourself - Atlanteans - Part 193


So, see how you react positively toward those that you perceive and believe are 'positive toward you' and how you react negatively or in anger when others are demanding you to do things or are angry within themselves due to their own accepted and allowed participation in anger, and how you react to them and so take their matters personally as well, because our reactions are always only related to ourselves, they are our own creation and how we 'believe' and 'perceive' others are toward us, so it can only be You reacting to His/others experiences, but not 'their fault' at all - self-responsibility is a key aspect here and self-honesty to see how it is you the one that has created this pattern.


I forgive myself for accepting and allowing past experiences with my boss that contributed to the situation and was actuually a form of revenge because of all the little moments that led up to this one.


See how we tend to 'seek revenge' when we victimize ourselves believing that 'someone else did it to us' without wanting to face the reality, which is: we do it ourselves, we do it to ourselves and so we MUST stop seeking to blame and even 'get revenge' from others as that's what has perpetuated the world as is, filled with 'invisible wars' that we only fight against ourselves in our invisible mind.

I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to throw away my form of self-support away because I was mad.


I would also 'watch out' for any self-sabotage situations wherein you simply give yourself as the mind full domain on yourself, because for the mind it's just such a wonderful source of energy you are giving it, so the more you participate in energy, the better - the more you start applying yourself in self-honesty to correct this point, the less energy you as the mind gets and that's precisely where real change resides, so it's all about You deciding who you will be in every moment.


Within all of this I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to perceive myself as a badass because I was "that gay that went there" that everybody wants to see and so I set it up where we were in font of all the employees so I could say fuck you and walk out.


This is the kind of points that you from here on would want to stop yourself from repeating ever again, this is just like a tantrum we create the same way as when we were children after we didn't get what we want, where there's spite, a sense of victimization and so a desire for 'revenge' while it all was concocted in your own mind. Place yourself in the shoes of others and see yourself from the 'outside,' do you actually consider that you would take such words personally? lol, if anything it would make everyone only realize how much you can 'burst out' after having played the good-worker facade, so it's only self-deception that's going on here, it won't really ever 'change others' or 'change how others see you' - so this is all about yourself in the first place, nothing more and nothing less.

I commit myself to when and as I feel like walking out because I want to get back at my boss and look like a badass, I stop and breathe. I realize im fucking insane and this is completely dumb and Im the only one to pay the price at the end of the day.


By perpetuating the judgment such as 'i'm insane' and 'i'm dumb' etc... that simply is now 'taking the blame' yourself and in blame, it is simply Another facade, another mask to not actually identify the responsibility you have to yourself in this situation, so this is not a REAL self-commitment or corrective statement, it is nothing else but 'turning the tables' and placing yourself in the 'inferior position' after you tried to place yourself 'on top of them all' by expressing them your anger - apparently - as a way to 'get back at them'. So, be aware of these games and rather self-forgive your self-definitions here and how they are actually Excuses to not face the reasons WHY you've wanted to be a 'badass' and why you wanted to 'get back at your boss' and how it all begun the moment you didn't take responsibility for your own emotional experiences in the first place, which could have prevented all these situations you've created - so it hasn't 'happened to you': you have created them yourself.

Ok, thanks for sharing it so openly because this is such a common thing and we can all relate to situations like this.

If something is not clear,let us know.

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Re: Joseph's writings

Postby Marlen » 12 May 2014, 02:24

Hi Joseph

Just listened to this new release on Eqafe, it can also be supportive for practical solutions with regards to Burdening yourself with responsibilities at work. This is it: Biting off More than You can Chew - Life Review

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Re: Joseph's writings

Postby Joseph Stein » 14 May 2014, 21:00

Hi Marlen.

I cannot buy these interviews just yet. So I would like to know where I should start with taking this point on. Should I start with my backchat and go from there? Or should I start with looking at why I consider how others look at me? Or should I clear up my previous self-forgiveness statements and self-commitment statements or expand on them?

This is all fascinating. I like how you took my words and used them to explain why I experience myself that way I do when I am at a job. Lol at first it was a lot to take in and seeing how dishonest I have been was quite a shock. I did not know all of this was happening within me by not taking self-responsibility for all of those little moments that accumulate over time.

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Postby Marlen » 15 May 2014, 22:40

Joseph Stein wrote:I cannot buy these interviews just yet. So I would like to know where I should start with taking this point on. Should I start with my backchat and go from there? Or should I start with looking at why I consider how others look at me? Or should I clear up my previous self-forgiveness statements and self-commitment statements or expand on them?


Cool Joseph. I suggest starting by writing out the backchat in self forgiveness which will lead you to as you write investigate why you had such backchat going on, why you have such considerations with regards to how others 'see you' -

What you wrote is cool, it is part of the process of taking the first approach to it and so as you share it here you get more perspectives and so you add those perspectives according to how you have understood them and also doing so because you see that it can support you to identify the source of the situation within yourself better. So it's more of an expansion rather than 're-doing' yes.

This is all fascinating. I like how you took my words and used them to explain why I experience myself that way I do when I am at a job. Lol at first it was a lot to take in and seeing how dishonest I have been was quite a shock. I did not know all of this was happening within me by not taking self-responsibility for all of those little moments that accumulate over time.


This is something we all can develop as one reads blogs, and also everyone else's support on each other at this forum, it's something to be practiced through writing oneself so you can definitely do so for yourself by learning here, and so that's the purpose of sharing at this forum, the feedback that we can give to one another to see points we probably hadn't considered before.

So, whenever you see ANY reaction coming up to seeing dishonesty, take it on as a point to self forgive too, because it doesn't make sense to add another layer of emotional reaction to a point of dishonesty which is already a participation in the mind - so, it's also about learning how to see ourselves the way we are and self-forgive so that we can stand clear when we investigate ourselves in our writings too. And yes, the accumulation process is what definitely then becomes like this overall experience that one goes 'dragging along' for some time, and it's definitely always easier to take the points as they emerge in the day - in your writings at night for example - rather than having them be layered and compound.

However it's not to judge the accumulation either, just suggesting the ways one can direct oneself. So it is to also realize that as you write yourself you can in fact get to know all the points that are 'going on' within you, because I am not you and was able to see this, so if we all develop the ability to spot our points to correct, where there is self-dishonesty and so forth, hell will we be an empowered humanity that can exist in a much more supportive manner rather than tapping onto each other's problems and self-dishonor/self-dishonesty. So yes, this forum stands as a platform for sharing with the new kind of human beings we see ourselves is possible to be, so that's why we share feedback and support one another, it's definitely cool and best for all.

Enjoy writing yourself.


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