I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to want help other people, instead of confronting my own problems.
Its good (from the standpoint of Equality and changing/Equalizing yourself to what is best for all) that you see this point, because many false perceptions in the world are based on people 'wanting and desiring to be good, and do good deeds ' in so, we are wanting and desiring to help people to make ourselves feel better
in the polarity game of superiority/inferiority. This can be referred to as 'padding the conscience' and a form of self-sabotage in that we are deliberately neglecting to face our own self-dishonesty in favor of playing the hero in our minds. We also may be acting from a starting point of pity rather than self-honesty. The outflow and consequence of that can certainly be deceptive as giving the impression to the other person that they need others to pity them, as a justification as to why they cannot stand up for themselves. The best we can do to support others is to be a living example ourselves, and in so take self-responsibility for ourselves in walking the process of self-forgiveness and self-change.
suffering ... to have the wrong attitude
Perhaps you could be more specific here. To clarify, a physical manifestation of suffering - such as someone starving or being beaten etc is not only merely a point of 'having the wrong attitude', but a result of all of us collectively not taking responsibility to stand within self-honesty.
They damage your thoughts, things that are yours, don't know how to act in your living place, ...
Another cool realization, yet beware of points of blame and judgement within yourself. Everyone in your reality is showing you a point within yourself... use these experiences as self-support to change yourself to be self-directive and eventually become more effective in aligning yourself with what is best for all.