Hi Keyondra **I was writing this post and finished after Leila has made a reply - so some of the points here are also mentioned by Leila - so a bit of a repeat/confirmation lol
I wanted to first share this video with you of a recording that I know has supported me in moments where I find it difficult to embrace me, as who I have allowed myself to be and who I am currently - 2011: Embracing Self by Bernard Poolman
Another supportive video interview for starting self forgiveness is here: 2011: Where do I start with Self Forgiveness
Also, I'm not sure if you have yet started or checked out the Desteni I Process lite course - but it is an awesome free course that one can walk through daily in learning the basics of the tools we walk with here - writing, self honesty, self forgiveness, etc. So if you have not yet looked at this, consider checking it out and walking the process as it's very simply structured for anyone not yet comfortable with self forgiveness or the 'how to' write/walk the self forgiveness process.
There is also many Journey to Life blogs that people are walking that are great examples of how to walk one through self forgiveness for specific points/experiences within self. You can check out the various blogs here: Journey to Life Facebook Group
The point of self forgiveness is not only for forgiving ourselves for what we see we accept and allow and live in our daily life that is not reflective of what is best for all or ourselves, it's also a means to let go of the past. It's also to get an understanding of who we are in relation to all things that has happened in our lives and what is currently happening in the world. We are responsible for what this world is and yet as a child, we are also victims to the cycles of abuse. We are brought into this world without proper education or understanding or a guide even to what this world is about and why things exist the way that we do and things happen to us or towards us or around us. So do not judge yourself for what has happened in your life, instead practice self forgiveness, breathing and writing to get out all the 'stuff' that we have stuffed within ourselves and keeps us hanging onto the past - things we cannot let go of and keep us from being here, free, in each moment.
So suggest to support yourself with DIP lite and the many video recordings and interviews that you can find here on the forum, and the examples of other participants that are walking their self forgiveness here on the forums to get a better understanding of 'how to' apply it. There is not necessarily a 'right or wrong' way - there is only self honesty so don't be hard on yourself, don't judge yourself - simply give yourself the gift of a chance to get to know yourself, who you have been throughout your life and how you are able to change yourself within freeing yourself from the emotional pain and anger and resentments we carrying in not allowing ourselves to understand why things exist the way that we do and how we are responsible in stopping what has been created and recreate/redefine ourselves as Life to live in ways that are Worthy for All.
If any of this is unclear or you require more perspective/clarity - do not hesitate to ask.