I suggest opening up a thread for yourself where you can write out your experience with your ex - because if she keeps showing up in dreams, where you have an emotional experience during/after the dream - then that is showing you that you have 'unresolved issues' in relation to your ex. I would suggest you start by writing out the predominant memories - the ones that 'pop out' - that are very positively charged, very negatively charged or somehow hold 'special meaning' for you. Once you've done the writing, you can apply Self-Forgiveness and write out Self-Corrective Statements. Posting them on the forum will allow us to assist you in the process.
In this post, you can find some cool perspective on the nature of 'Relationships' - that may assist you within opening up your memories and writing for yourself:
http://heavensjourneytolife.blogspot.co ... press.html