Transgender

[Ann]

Hey everyone!

What are your perspectives on transgender. So boys and girls who don't feel like boys or girls, as if they are born in the wrong body, and later in life sometimes have surgery to become the other sex.
What I find facinating is that this often is stated from a very young age.

My perspective at this moment is, that you first must have a concept of what a "girl" and "boy" is, a certain construct in the mind about what it means to be a boy or girl,and then judging self based on the image of being a boy or girl connected to other concepts that belongs to the gender they are not, and which to be. Because we defined that "this and that behavior" belongs to boys, and this and that to girls.
Like we create categories and then see how much we fit in it and judge ourselves based on that.
So if I would experience the feeling as if I have to be a boy, I would look at those constructs, and why I cannot be comfortable in a female body, why I would necessarily need a male body, when itnernally, I would be the same. So it is very much based on exterior appearance. And take responsibility for my reactions towards looking like a female, but actually wanting to be a male, and why I think that in my current form, I cannot have certain behavior etc...

[Anna]

So boys and girls who don't feel like boys or girls, as if they are born in the wrong body, and later in life sometimes have surgery to become the other sex.

Also, the statement "born in the wrong body" show that there is an idea about having a "soul" and a "life-path" where something can be right and something can be wrong, where one experiences a "need" to express oneself quite limited. Obviously that the also points back to a society that has extremely narrow gender-requirements, because if we did not have that, would it matter whether one was born female or male?

Marlen wrote a cool reply on transgender here:

Hi Michelle

This is a start. The cool point you can look at here is that, doesn't matter which gender we are, we are all aware of our personalities, ego and any other quirks that we have held as memories that turn into a drag that we live out as 'who we are.'

What I've found the most supportive here is to essentially write the most prominent current experience within you and your current day to day living, so that writing becomes a habit to establish yourself and within that, beginning to write Self-Forgiveness to start walking the process of realizing 'who you are' through your own words.

I agree that for now, you can focus on establishing self-communication wherein you write-you and gift yourself the opportunity to - for once and for all - stop the rollercoaster that we have made up of our lives here.

I found an interesting typo when you said: I wanted Equality. I wanted the world to except me.
So, it's interesting that we may all want Equality, but we definitely have to begin with Self-Equality wherein we walk our process to Accept ourselves - regardless of who and what we have been - and create a new starting point of our every day living. Because, what would be the point of continuing reinforcing judgments imposed onto our own lives? Nothing else but eating of the same battle-soup that is cooked within our mind.

So, now that you are here, suggest to start writing about your current experience and take one single experience that you can see is the most prominent one, and write the entire memory/ event out. That's how you go taking a single point every day to walk it through writing, this ensures that you are always reflecting back on yourself through your own writings. And, the forum is here to support with further feedback on Self Forgiveness and establishing Self-Honesty to begin with.

Cool - thanks for sharing