redefining words

[alexparkinson]

Hello all,

I have recently created an entry within my blog where I used the technique of redefining words as seen on the Earth's journey to life blog (http://earthsjourneytolife.blogspot.ca/). I am simply wondering if i got the technique right, because I want to make sure that the basis as the foundation of this technique is set within myself before I use it again for the defining of other words.

I will copy and past the blog entry where I followed the steps given through the Earth's journey to life blog so that I can get feedback on what I have written - to make sure that I got the steps right as I intend on using this technique again in the future.

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Redefining the word "arrogance":

1. Gathering Information stage

a) Establishing Self’s Allocation point:

I always perceived this word as being a word that would place the one receiving the word in a “upper” or “greater than” position in relationship to the one giving the word out. Within my personal experiences with this word, the giving aspect of this word mostly manifests itself within “backchat” where I internally tell myself “he/she is so arrogant” as reactions towards the words/actions/deeds that another directed unto myself. On occasions where I have expressed this word outwardly, such as when I would perceive the behaviour of a sports player that I didn’t approve, I would yell out “I ate him because he is arrogant” within which I would experience myself as being “less than” the being I would define as such. What strikes me now is that I have mostly used this word within the enclosure of my mind as backchat – not having expressed it outwards that many times towards others. Thus, the giving out of the word “arrogance” is mostly done unto myself within and as my mind, thereby being at the same time, the receiver and the giver of the word “arrogance”. When I am at the receiving end of this word, such as when another tells me that I am arrogant, I usually experience myself as feeling conflicted between the negative charges and the positive charges that are culturally associated with this word. On the positive charge, I then see myself as being “greater than” the person telling me that I am arrogant, because I have associated this word with the state of being “overly confident” or of having “greater confidence” in relationship with another. On the negative charge, I simultaneously see myself as not being a “good person” because of the negative associations I have made towards and within the word arrogant – I do not see myself as being a good person because of having seen arrogant people as being individuals who act for their sole self-interests without any care whatsoever for the consequences of their actions towards others. Thus, either by me being the one giving or receiving the word arrogance, the one constant is that this word generates friction within and as myself which manifests as a feeling of being conflicted between the positive charges of the word – I am greater, more confident than the other – and the negative charges of the word – I am not a good caring person towards the other.

b) Dictionary Definition:

Definition of ARROGANCE:

(1) An attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions.

(2) An insulting way of thinking or behaving that comes from believing that you are better, smarter, or more important than other people

c) Sounding of the word – Arrogance:

“Arror Gance” = Error Glanced – where one glances at a behaviour which is a fundamental error between human’s assessment of each other, being that one’s glance into another’s behaviour is fundamentally flawed because of only considering what is perceived within the moment as the basis upon which the assesment is made rather than considering the entirety of the person’s past within the assessment. When one asses someone as being “arrogant”, one is committing an error of human judgment through perceiving another at a glance, without taking into consideration all aspects which motivates their behaviour. One is arrogant when one acts without full consideration of another’s past within one’s judgment – acting at a glance rather than acting as awareness.

2. Investigating the information of the word that has been gathered :

Determining whether the definition within the different aspects that I have gathered as information of the word, carry a polarity charge (is made “good”/”positive” or “bad”/”negative”)?

a) My own personal experience with the word arrogance:

As I was growing up in this world – as a child – I never really was introduced to this word as it wasn’t a word that I was accustomed at using or seeing. Although in retrospect, I have seen behaviours which I would now describe as being arrogant, I wasn’t then aware that the behaviours that I was witnessing represented arrogance. I generally saw arrogance as the natural behaviour of my father, however not seeing him as being arrogant per say, but rather confident as the authority figure in our household. Within the fact that the word arrogance wasn’t present within my vocabulary as I was growing up, I can still say however that I have experienced the meaning of the word in some particular instances later on within my formative years. One particular experience that I remember where I was at the giving end of arrogance came as I was a teenager. I remember that I was constantly teased by other classmates whom presented themselves as being “more than me”. The way that they would claim that they were “more than me” concerned that they would present themselves as “having more than me”, through games of comparisons and competitions where I was perceived as being the “loser” and them the “winners”. They would allow themselves to bully me through giving themselves the allowances to treat me as if I was “less than them” because I accepted and allowed seeing myself as being “less than” them. I remember that some of the factors which played out in my mind to which they and I used in order to determine that I was “less than them” was the fact that I have brown skin and that I was skinny looking as I was growing up. We both used these facts as determining factors from within which we gave ourselves the statuses of the bully and the bullied. I remember that I was afraid of being left alone with them because of the ways that they would treat me, such as pinning me against my locker and calling me derogative names. Later on in my life, I started using the word arrogance when I perceived within another’s behaviour, the same traits that I have associated with those who bullied me as I was a teenager. Specifically, the traits which brought me to judge another as being arrogant revolved around one’s facial expression. When I would see someone look at me or look at someone else with eyes and smile that would make me reminisce those who bullied me, I would judge them as being arrogant within which I would experience myself as the same feeling that I experienced when I was bullied, which was the feeling of being “less than another”. Even when I was at the receiving end of the word arrogance, as was the case when another would call me arrogant – as it was the case a few times when I was within a competitive activity with a friend – I still generally experienced myself as being negatively charged within and as myself. The only few times when I didn’t experience a negatively charged reaction within myself through another calling me arrogant came when I was actually seeing myself as being “more than others”. Such instances generally came when I experienced manic episodes – a symptom of my condition of being bipolar – or when I actually felt as being the “winner” in front of another. So basically the word arrogance was mostly negatively charged throughout my lifetime.

b) Self-Forgiveness on the word arrogance :

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear arrogance within the belief that I am always on the giving end of the word arrogance within the relationship with another – from within which I experience myself as being negatively charged, or “less than” another.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see myself as being “less than another” whenever I hear the word arrogance through me still holding onto the negatively charged experiences that I lived as I was a teenager in this world, where I was regularly bullied by others through our tacitly agreed upon statuses as the bully and the bullied.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel “less than” those who present themselves as “having more than” me.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that who I am now is a manifestation that is emerging from the starting point of separation and thus, everything I do and say supports separation which means that I cannot do freely what I want but instead I have to take self-responsibility in establishing myself within the directive principle of living what’s best for all within the realization that I am not separate from anyone or anything else but am one and equal to all.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel “less than” another because of the tone of my skin or the appearance of my being and through this, having blamed life and myself for the predicament that I am in within and as my physical body.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to blame myself and life as my physical body for the judgments of others towards me – and within this, I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to realise that the judgments that others have against me are the same judgments that I have against myself.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to hold a grudge against my physical body and life in general for having given me the physical attributes which others use in order to make them “more than me” through the act of arrogance.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to go into hiding within my mind whenever I hear/see someone who is behaving in ways which are arrogant and within this, I forgive myself that I haven’t accepted and allowed myself to act as CHANGE in my behaviour whenever I am in the presence of someone who express the traits of arrogance towards me or someone else.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to fear expressing myself against the behaviour of someone who exhibits arrogant traits because of the underlying belief that the person is right in his ways of arrogance because of me seeing them as being “more than me” and me seeing myself as being “less than them”.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to perceive myself as being “less than” those who exhibit traits of arrogance – and within this, I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to keep silent whenever I experience the feeling of being “less than” another which allows the abuse to continue through arrogance.

c) New definition:

Arrogance is the behaviour of someone who is acting without consideration of the consequences of its actions towards others as itself. A person is arrogant – Error Again – when it expresses behaviours which are based on the perceived possessions of that person as being “more than” those of another, which is an error that is repeating itself as long as the person participates within games of “winners/haves” and “losers/have nots”.

d) Self-corrective statements in how I practically will walk the stoppage of arrogance within me:

If and when I see myself moving or about to move into the mind through the “arrogance” – Error Glanced – pattern, I stop, breathe, remind myself that it is a pattern of me as the mind I no longer want to engage for it is not what is best for me and what is best for all, One and Equal.

When and as I see myself moving into the automatic personality of arrogance “I am more than another” or “I am less than another”, I stop, breathe, see if i have missed an opportunity to self-correct into Oneness and Equality from which the arrogance arose, if so, I forgive myself, stand up from the arrogance game and self-correct, if not i stop, self-forgive my participation in arrogance as an automated response to a pattern of self-abuse and bring myself back Here in and as Breath.

I commit myself to stop myself from entertaining ideas and beliefs about “arrogance” through the use of thoughts and emotions, ideas and beliefs, comparisons and games of winners and losers to establish myself as an example of how Life could be for everyone outside of the limited living of the Mind of illusions and back into Life as the Physical, One and Equal for every living Being.

I commit myself to stop “glancing” at the behaviour of another and from there, stop judging another according to a “glance” without the consideration of all of the person’s past within my perception of another.

I commit myself to stop using arrogance in front of another, as the act of perceiving myself as “having more than” or “being more than” another, while basing my perception on what separates me from another, such as what I have that the other does not, rather than perceiving me as that which is equal and one with another, as the physical as life.

I commit myself to stop looking at the possessions of another in my assessment of another.

I commit myself to stop any and all experiences of wanting more than I can handle where within that I first stand in complete clarity within myself and my immediate environment.


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Thanks again for your support.

[barbara]

Hey Alex,

very cool self-investigation!

I'd like to point out some things that presented themselves to me when reading through the stages of your redefinition work.

c) Sounding of the word – Arrogance:

“Arror Gance” = Error Glanced – where one glances at a behaviour which is a fundamental error between human’s assessment of each other, being that one’s glance into another’s behaviour is fundamentally flawed because of only considering what is perceived within the moment as the basis upon which the assesment is made rather than considering the entirety of the person’s past within the assessment. When one asses someone as being “arrogant”, one is committing an error of human judgment through perceiving another at a glance, without taking into consideration all aspects which motivates their behaviour. One is arrogant when one acts without full consideration of another’s past within one’s judgment – acting at a glance rather than acting as awareness.

Here I wouldn't go into 'having to consider the entirety of a person's past within assessment' nor place the focus on 'error of human judgment', but here it is to see (glance) that the 'error' lies within the starting point of self-separation wherein one allows oneself to judge oneself and another as oneself: so focus is to be placed on the allowance within oneself (superiority stance) and pointing out (judging within superiority) all based on self-separation and self-judgment. See http://heavensjourneytolife.blogspot.de ... ay-14.html, where this is walked in specificity.

Also interesting to consider the sounding within the word as 'a rogue stance', with the 'rogue' being defined as 'a deceitful and unreliable scoundrel' and 'something or someone different from what is normal or expected'.

So 'arrogance' would point out a being's starting point of being 'deceitful' within claiming to be 'more' than 'normal'; thus this point of CLAIM and JUDGMENT toward this claim. You can play with this aspect for yourself.

Also consider the latin root of 'rogare' = 'to ask, question' --- placing the stance/starting point of the being into question. Thus questioning the claim a being is making of his/her rogue stance.

c) New definition:

Arrogance is the behaviour of someone who is acting without consideration of the consequences of its actions towards others as itself. A person is arrogant – Error Again – when it expresses behaviours which are based on the perceived possessions of that person as being “more than” those of another, which is an error that is repeating itself as long as the person participates within games of “winners/haves” and “losers/have nots”.

This definition still holds judgment and thus polarity in the words of 'acting without consideration' where you imply one should have consideration (polarity). Also a redefinition isn't done to define when it is able to be used to judge a person.

So with the pointers above I suggest to allow yourself another 'go at it' taking into consideration what Sunette has written on judgment and separation and the points of considering oneself as 'more' / 'less' than oneself through relationships with self within self-separation of negativity, neutrality and positivity:

http://heavensjourneytolife.blogspot.de ... ay-12.html
http://heavensjourneytolife.blogspot.de ... ay-13.html
http://heavensjourneytolife.blogspot.de ... ay-14.html

So, these posts are cool to get the full scope of Self-separation and (self-)judgment which will show you what starting point we are allowing ourselves as and within when we ultimately live ourselves as 'arrogance'. Thus I suggest to take this as a platform when reconsidering the redefinition of 'arrogance' and also you can take these pointers to go deeper into your sf and scs.

Otherwise cool sharing! Thanks, Alex, and if anything is unclear, please ask.

[alexparkinson]

Thank you for your feedback barbara. I will go and have a look at what Sunette has written in the heaven's journey to life blog so that I may lay the foundation of the technique within myself so that the focus of my definitions should be void of any polarity.

Thanks again for your input Barbara, it is very supportive!

[alexparkinson]

Hello again Barbara,

I'm going to try another definition for the word arrogance, based on my understanding of your suggestions and of the reading of what sunette has written on the heaven's journey to life blog that you have suggested to me

Arrogance = Error Glanced:
Where one glances at the behaviour of another from the starting point of separation. Arro gance is the act of commiting an error within the starting point of self-separation wherein one allows oneself to judge oneself and another as oneself. (i'm trying to think of what to say next in my "sounding of the word arrogance". Nothing comes to mind so I will leave it at that for now).

Now, concerning my new definition of the word, I will try to apply what you have suggested to me, which is not to use words which implies polarity (i have to admit that i sometimes have difficulties to see if a word I use infer polarity, especially words where the polarity is more ambiguous to me, like what you have pointed out of the word "consideration" = polarity. Looking again at the feedback you have given me, when I look at "acting without cousideration", can you give me an example where "acting without consideration" means judgment, because I have difficulties in seeing it.) Now, I will try another definition of Arrogance based on what I have written so far, while this time, I will be cautious not to include anything which could imply separation/polarity/judgments. Here goes:

New definition:

Arrogance: the act of assessing onself as another through the starting point of deceit, where one would claim to be "more than" oneself or another. (again, I have to admit that I have difficulties in getting the wording right because at this point all the rules are confusing me in my attempts to redefine words which are free of polarity and judgments...). Let's try again, through the consideration of what I have written in the "sounding of the word" aspect:
Arrogance: the act of commiting an error through judging oneself and another as oneself through games of polarity, where one becomes "more than" another as oneself within a moment (a glance), instead of correcting oneself from participating in polarity and games of "winners" and "losers" by realigning oneself to the principle of what's best for all - where no judgments or polarity games are allowed.

Ok. I will wait for your reply to see if there is anything else that I can do to "get it right" so as to "automate" the technique within myself for subsequent re-definitions.

Thanks again for your support!

[Maya]

Some of the words are a part of a polarity and thus, what i do with those words within the new definition of the word is give a practical correction.
For example here: Arrogance
sounding -
Arrow-Gan-C-E->
Arrow and Gan represent the nature of the word as how it is lived now - abuse towards oneself and another.
C- See
E - Energy.
Meaning that Arrogance can only exists in Energy which at the moment we cannot see.

The practical application of the word Arrogance - is to assess (See) when self has been abusive towards oneself or another either through actions/words or back chat in the nature of war/conflict and thus, when one SEE that one was separating oneself through accessing the energy of Arrogance - one stop, breathe and immediately correct one stance within and as the physical.

Alex, redefining words takes time. I'm working with it for more than a year now and it is still not always obvious to see.
So, cool that you started playing with it however, don't be hard on yourself if it's not coming so easily.

[barbara]

Hey Alex,

with respect to 'consideration' what I was saying was by considering someone's action AS BEING WITH consideration of something or WITHOUT consdieration of something is the polarity in the case you've described - thus not the word 'consideration' per se is a word that holds polarity, but the 'demand' you place on someone's starting point when redefining 'arrogance' that they be WITH consideration; in this you are placing the redefinition in terms of polarity: being WITH the criterion of 'consideration' or WITHOUT the criterion of 'consideration' - just like doing something WITH efficiency or WITHOUT efficiency, WITH input or WITHOUT input etc.

So, as Maya has shown with just using the soundings of the word and word roots that are obvious to you - meaning not-going into the Latin 'rogare' or 'rogue stance', you are able to get to the redefinition if you allow yourself to re-sound the root over and over and place various emphases on the individual roots to produce a new 'sling', you are able to get 'arrow' (ARRO) 'against' (GAN) with the C see E energy which you turn 'both ways': seeing the arrow against oneself and the other and when this is allowed as and within oneself.

With the Latin - which is what has been obvious to me within the word, was to place the question toward oneself 'are you an arrow (as abuse)' with the 'arrow' and the 'are you' and the 'rogare' as the infinitive of the word stem/root - and then adding the C and E as SEE and ENERGY and adding that up to a redefinition. Or using the 'rogue stance' as being a pretended/false stance wherein one uses an arrow against oneself and other not seeing the abuse and self-abuse, as the E as Energy implies and is always abusive/self-abusive; as well as 'against' (gan). This is just to round off the sound-picture I was compiling above

Thanks, Maya, for the re-definiton!

Enjoy supporting yourself with words and redefinitions Alex!

[Esteni]

Cool Alex,

As was mentioned already - Redefining words do take time and it is a process to let go of the pre-programmed designs that we have accepted and allowed ourselves to live as.
You're application is coming through effectively though some alignments are still required which is why we are all here to support one another.

Great support Maya and Barbara.

[alexparkinson]

Thanks you for all your support, Barbara, Maya and Esteni, I'm really grateful for all your input.

I now have a better perspective on the act of redefining words within that I will give myself the necessary time in order to properly re-define my words, especially those from within which I perceive negative or positive charges.

As for the word "Arrogance", I've had difficulties redefining the word as a living expression of myself, because it is a word which is generally negatively charged - thus it makes it difficult for me to redefine that word as a living expression of myself because I tend to turn the word's polarity around in order to make it positive, which I realise is a mistake. One of the reasons why I wanted to work on that word in the first place, was that I recently had experiences with a friend of mine who is leaving comments to my blog which seems to me as being arrogant - from within which I would immediately experience myself as being "less than" through the internal reaction as back chat, that occured as the thought of me saying "he is so arrogant". I realise that I was only affecting the negative charges of that word unto myself alone, as I was the receiver and the giver of that word - being that my friend was not in my head, listening to me telling him that "he is so arrogant". Thus, through this experience, I wanted to re-work that word so that it would be void of energetic charges as I was still manipulated within myself, with the negative energetical charge of the word.

So again, thanks for all of your input. I will continue working on the word arrogance in order that I may stand within the word, without any energetic reactions that manipulates me from within.

[barbara]

It's interesting to see that when one finds the other is being arrogant and looks at the redefinition of arrogance as 'seeing the energy of self-abuse/abuse and accessing the energy of arrogance and thus separating oneself from oneself' and one finds that one desires that the other see this within themself / as themself, because one feels to have been abused and wants to make oneself feel good again by desiring that the other see this accessing of arrogance as energy - thinking, when the other does see thi,s he will feel bad about it or 'at least' stop doing so. Well, something along these lines. And then I will not have to cope with this kind of abuse anymore and I don't have to fear being at the receiving end of it and don't have to take self-responsibility within it - facing me within it...

So looking at it along these or similar lines you are able to ask yourself who you are within this as the receiver and what you as mind would accept as remedy/solution, to then forgive this within and as yourself. In this you'll probably open up the point further for yourself.

Cool self-insight Alex, thanks for sharing!

[KimKline]

Cool that you are taking your time to properly learn and integrate the process of redefining words Alex!

With regards to this quote"

One of the reasons why I wanted to work on that word in the first place, was that I recently had experiences with a friend of mine who is leaving comments to my blog which seems to me as being arrogant - from within which I would immediately experience myself as being "less than" through the internal reaction as back chat, that occured as the thought of me saying "he is so arrogant". I realise that I was only affecting the negative charges of that word unto myself alone, as I was the receiver and the giver of that word - being that my friend was not in my head, listening to me telling him that "he is so arrogant". Thus, through this experience, I wanted to re-work that word so that it would be void of energetic charges as I was still manipulated within myself, with the negative energetical charge of the word.

Here is a post by Sunette (about projecting blame) that may be relevant to your experience of calling another 'arrogant' as a projection of yourself onto another, wherein you are both the giver and the receiver. I realize that you are taking responsibility and not projecting balme on to your friend per se, but the part within the below quote that I find relevant is the part about investigating in self-honesty, where/how you may be accepting/allowing the exact behaviour you are reacting to, within yourself.

Specifically, the support she gives in step 3 where she says: "In this self-honesty, I see/realise/understand that I in fact do the exact same thing as what I blamed another for and that I was using the other person’s discrepancies to hide my own. "

-Seeing as 'arrogance' places one 'above' another, if you accept/allow it within you, then you will also experience the polarity of "less than," so as Barbara suggested, you could open the point up with self-forgiveness on both polarities in order that you may establish instead a point of stability and equality, and then from there redefine 'arrogance.'


The below quote is an example of accepted/allowed blame.

For example:
I, in a moment react with thoughts and energy towards another being with the backchat racing within my mind within the following context: “She/he tells everyone-else to put the milk away – but then she/he leaves other things lying around that’s supposed to be in the fridge”. ‘Blame backchat’ is also accompanied primarily with anger/irritation/frustration – so, experiencing such emotions within the nature of the situation/moment that stand within ‘making another responsible instead of taking self-responsibility’ is also an indication of accepting/allowing self to participate in/as blame.
Thus, within this example – we’re ‘blaming another for keeping things laying around’ in/as that moment.

We’ve walked-through our lives ‘disregarding/suppressing/validating/justifying’ such ‘fleeting moments of backchat, as with for example ‘blame’’ – not realising that it is in fact such moments that accumulate energy-layers within-ourselves towards that person as ‘blame within anger/irritation/frustration’ until eventually, our own creation possess us, and then our total self-experience towards the person becomes that of blame and reactive within anger/irritation/frustration. Until – eventually, we edge the person out of our worlds/lives – making them the cause/source/origin of a ‘failed relationship’ – when, in fact – self created, designed, programmed and manifested it into and as self through ‘time and accumulation’ – accumulating moments of blame instead of taking self-responsibility in the first place.

Therefore, the self-responsibility within this example would be to:

STEP 1:
Investigate the particular point of blame, which is:
“blaming another for leaving things around that’s supposed to be in the refrigerator.”
STEP 2:
Ask the following question:
“Where/how within my application am I accepting and allowing the exact same action that I am blaming another-for?”
STEP 3:
Investigate self-honestly where self is in fact accepting/allowing the exact same action that one is blaming another for. As with the example above, I look within myself self-honestly and see/realise that I in fact ‘take chances’ in moments and leave things out because I justify/validate it by saying “it doesn’t have to go in the fridge right now” and do this when I deliberately don’t want to walk those extra few steps to the fridge.
In this self-honesty, I see/realise/understand that I in fact do the exact same thing as what I blamed another for and that I was using the other person’s discrepancies to hide my own.
STEP 4:
Self forgiveness for accepting and allowing self to blame/hide within blame and try and use/abuse another’s life/actions to hide one’s own deception/dishonesty.
STEP 5:
Self-Corrective Action – take self-responsibility for one’s world/reality and ensure that; whatever point of blame was faced within self, is investigated and so self-corrected – as within the example and STEPS above, where one thus stop blame and abuse of another and take self-responsibility to always ensure that whatever is used/utilized from the fridge is placed back and so lead by example.

OUTCOME:
In walking this point so – one assist/support self to stop the nature of blame within self and so stop self from accepting and allowing self to sabotage relationships within one’s world, just because self didn’t take responsibility in moments, but accepted and allowed self to participate in dishonesty and deception through using/abusing another’s actions to hide-behind.
In walking the corrections of stopping blame within self – one can instead work within one’s relationships in establishing effective, supportive equal and one co-existence, rather-than wasting one’s time within trying to hide one’s own deception/dishonesty behind others that only lead to separation and consequence.

Develop self’s living effectively, to develop self’s relationships effectively to so manifest a world within the nature of support and assistance in equality and oneness. It starts with self.