Welcome to the forum! Very cool that you're here, especially through your husband's example -
We have been married for twenty five years and he has been my knight in shinning armour though I have not been able to communicate that to him in such a way for him to hear it.
You will see as you walk that you will become your own 'knight in shining armor' equal and one - and that, as you become more comfortable in communicating with and hearing yourself, you will find it more comfortable to communicate with your husband in a direct and intimate way, as well.
If you haven't already, please read through the Forum Guidelines
When you are ready to, suggest to start sharing yourself and your process by opening up a thread in Writing Yourself to Freedom
, especially in relation to what you have mentioned about your childhood experiences: to begin writing out and sharing your self-forgiveness and self-correction process in walking through the experiences - step by step, breath by breath - and indeed, we are certainly here to assist/support while you walk this journey!