Eye blinking while talking

[Garid]

I have been observing during my conversations with people and other peoples conversations, body language specifically the eye movement as speed of eye blinks.
Please clarify if possible the specificity of eye movement...
So far from what I have observed the faster eye blinks the more the statements that particular being is being dishonest.. True.?
And as one is speaking there are moments where that being says something while closing eyes (at unnatural moment), does it mean that he/she is been dishonest w/ me.?
Should I disregard the the words they speak because what has been said a lie.?
Thank you.! Any perspective will be appreciated

[Cathy]

Hey Garid,
Many things can influence a particular moment, so it's difficult to know for sure, though of course anyone blinking often is questionable behaviour. The coolest way to know anything such as your asking is to investigate it first within self to know for sure.

[Marlen]

So far from what I have observed the faster eye blinks the more the statements that particular being is being dishonest.. True.?
And as one is speaking there are moments where that being says something while closing eyes (at unnatural moment), does it mean that he/she is been dishonest w/ me.?
Should I disregard the the words they speak because what has been said a lie.?
Thank you.! Any perspective will be appreciated

Self-introspection as Cathy has suggested is the way to go here within the consideration of projecting judgments onto others.

See, what would it change to 'know' if someone is 'being dishonest with you' in any way? How about instead first seeing where and how you are existing in a dishonest way from the moment that you are seeking dishonesty in another before looking into yourself.

Also consider how within self-honesty, we realize that everything we think, say,do think, speak is a lie when not being here as breath and absolutely self-directive, as it is all just serving our own interest. Hence, before wanting to look for 'lies' in another/ wanting to know if someone is 'dishonest' toward you, rather stop projecting such judgments and take it back to self:

Where and how am I still living a life as the character that I am instead of living in common sense?

This would mean that one stops seeking to try and figure out whether 'we are being lied to or not' which is actually a victimized state, instead of taking responsibility for ourselves to ensure that we take our own life through this process of self-correction, which implies that you get to know how you function in relation to the thoughts in your mind and your own body language. This process is about self-first, trying to 'figure out others' is based on self interest and not common sensical living.

So, suggest you write out the starting point for doing so and how you can instead investigate this point with yourself, with your own life and how you have lived dishonesty instead of self-honesty in every moment.

If something's not clear, write it out and we'll clarify.

[Garid]

Yes.
I do check myself constantly if I am in fact speaking as who I am.

[Marlen]

Yes.
I do check myself constantly if I am in fact speaking as who I am.

A point to consider is defining that 'who I am' first, to ensure you are not justifying it by another belief of 'who you are' in separation of self within common sense

[kim amourette]

Cool common sense Marlen - always bring the point back to self and investigate the starting point of the question. And also realizing that at this point our self-honesty is not yet realized, as we are still in the process of establishing a clear starting point within ourselves.

So, Garid, like Cathy and Marlen mentioned, we will only be able to see the 'lies' in another if and when we have faced the lies within ourselves and stand self-honest, but then it won't be from the starting point of 'wanting to know/see' - so, I would also suggest to check your starting point in this question, because it indicates a desire to 'know' who 'other people' are - so, important to investigate why, because to look at others and want to know what exist within them, is to not look at yourself and what exist within you -- which is a diversion mechanism that the mind uses, wherein a personality is formed of perceived superiority over others to avoid looking within self.

cheers, Kim

[Jason]

"Self-introspection as Cathy has suggested is the way to go here within the consideration of projecting judgments onto others."

I don't know about that. Different people are different, and if you're not a liar, you might not understand or recognize a liar by examining yourself. From what I can tell, people who are pathological liars (for example) learn to mimic normal people (people with apathy), and often times, they are very good at it, so... I would be careful about using yourself as a yardstick to measure other people. In the end, YOU really have no frikkin' idea what's happening in someone else's head. It seems to me that if you want to understand liars, then you should study them. You can't just assume that everyone is JUST LIKE YOU. I mean... maybe they are in some greater cosmic sense, but... if you're a musician, and you want to understand mathematicians, well... you're probably better off just learning about mathematicians. What you experience as someone inclined towards music may very well have similarities with the experience of someone inclined towards mathematics, but at the same time... a mathematician might be very, very different from you, and possess qualities, perspectives, inclinations, etc. that are foreign to you.

In the end "psychological projection" has it's pitfalls.

[Leila]

The comment both Cathy and Marlen made were context specific to the question Garid asked, and thus provided feedback specific to the questions -- which is but one of many dimensions existent within the relationship between 'self' and 'others'.

Within Desteni we firstly work with self where we take any point of assumption or belief about others and bring it back to self and see who we are in relation to the assumption / belief made. So it's not even about what others are or are not experiencing inside themselves, but how what we believe goes on within others affects us and our behaviour.

So within this context we are removing 'the other' and only looking at ourselves.

Though, as you develop your self-intimacy and your self-honesty you will be able to see and identify patterns within others, as you've seen and walked these patterns within yourself in your process. This is dependent on one's self-honesty -- if you never look and investigate how you work inside yourself you won't be able to see what others are doing, as you've already accepted and allowed yourself to be blind towards and within yourself.

People are really not that different, we all have the same patterns and inclinations but they will play out and manifest within different scenarios -- where we will all participate within the same point within ourselves, but from an extenal reality point of view it looks like we're doing different things. If you listen to some of the Life Review interviews on EQAFE (you can download some for free), you will find that you can relate to each and every single beings life and experiencess -- you are able to place yourself in their shoes and walk their life with them, seeing and realising how that person's life could have easily been yours.

[Jason]

Do you guys kind of think that we're all part of the one "Universal Mind" or something (like in Hinduism and stuff)?

[Rozelle de Lange]

Hi Jason,

Do you guys kind of think that we're all part of the one "Universal Mind" or something (like in Hinduism and stuff)?

Here is a video which will assist within understanding of the universal mind:
The Design of the Universal Mind

All the people here at Desteni are walking a process of self-change through the act of apply self-forgiveness as an act of taking direct self-responsibility for all that we have accepted and allowed ourselves to be and become. This is within the understanding that the world as it exists now is a direct reflection of who we have accepted and allowed ourselves to be/become, and that the only way we will be able to change our manifestation of this world into a place which stands within the principle of what is best for all, is by/through changing ourselves.

I suggest to investigate the Journey to Life Blogs to get further perspective and understanding of how this is practically applied.

If you have any specific questions after you have investigated the points mentioned herein - simply ask and we will assist and support you within your questions.