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frank
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Masturbation with only hands

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I remember that Bernard encouraged this action.

I did it. I thought I wouldn’t feel anything unlike the energetic masturbation which I felt regret. But afterwards I felt a sense of unnecessary( maybe a little bit of anger?). Why I did that? It’s so unnecessary and a waste of time.

Why do I feel that way(unnecessariness)? Does masturbation still upgrading the unconscious mind? Is sexual activities really have a meaning?

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Hi Frank,

I recommend you watch the entire EQAFE series 'Shocking Secrets of Masturbation'. That will explain all dimensions involved in masturbation and how you can turn masturbation in an act of self-support and self-expression instead of it being just a system that charges your mind.

Introduction to the series: https://eqafe.com/p/shocking-secrets-of ... troduction

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I discovered a pattern of myself.

I can simply stop masturbation. When sexual desire comes, I keep myself busy to avoid that.

What tricks me is within mind picture comes, I might still influenced by them greatly, it’s like suddenly get possessed by programmings that cannot at the moment be deleted. When you try to be ok with that, somehow some events would happen that could make you feeling anger, like your mom trying to talk to you, you just don’t feel right, like a fierce force that drives you mad.

I’m confused with this point. And I think a need a solution.

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frank wrote: 04 Jul 2021, 18:41 I discovered a pattern of myself.

I can simply stop masturbation. When sexual desire comes, I keep myself busy to avoid that.

What tricks me is within mind picture comes, I might still influenced by them greatly, it’s like suddenly get possessed by programmings that cannot at the moment be deleted. When you try to be ok with that, somehow some events would happen that could make you feeling anger, like your mom trying to talk to you, you just don’t feel right, like a fierce force that drives you mad.

I’m confused with this point. And I think a need a solution.
Cool Frank. In the initial years of my process that is also what I did. I simply stopped.

What I would do is when the pictures come I would simply hold myself and breathe - let the pictures pass without reacting to them.

What also helps to diffuse the energy is to touch your face, your arms, your hands, your entire body - because the mind has locked your sexual expression only in the area of your sexual organ, when real self-expression comes through in the entire body.

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Re: Masturbation with only hands

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Oh fuck, just grow up and stop tugging your dick. Find a partner you can make love to while honouring the space you two share between ejaculations.

If you still masterbate after let’s say more than 10 years of process than you my friend need to start over again and figure your shit out! Any male who has “processed” to any real extent will NEVER tugg their dick again. It’s fucking childish and if you still watch any kind of porn, mr barnyard would be rolling in his fucking grave! Shame! Shame! Shame!! Beta males everywhere!!!

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Luc wrote: 30 Aug 2021, 04:36 Oh fuck, just grow up and stop tugging your dick. Find a partner you can make love to while honouring the space you two share between ejaculations.

If you still masterbate after let’s say more than 10 years of process than you my friend need to start over again and figure your shit out! Any male who has “processed” to any real extent will NEVER tugg their dick again. It’s fucking childish and if you still watch any kind of porn, mr barnyard would be rolling in his fucking grave! Shame! Shame! Shame!! Beta males everywhere!!!
For most men pornography is a big thing and I would say that stopping the addiction to pornography will most likely only work when it is accompanied by simultanuously stopping the addiction to masturbation. Many Destonian men have been able to stop this. So, what you say Luc is entirely valid from that perspective.

Though, from a broader life perspective masturbation in and of itself is not 'evil' - when approached with self-honesty it kan become the Key to developing your Sexual expression. Hence, even though one need to support oneself with stopping masturbation initially to attain a point of self-mastery within one's ow mind - eventually masturbation is a point that can be 'revisited' later on in one's process.

Though yes, this requires practice, self-honesty and self-discipline. The series done through the Portal offer A LOT of perspective on what this can mean from a practical perspective: https://eqafe.com/p/shocking-secrets-of ... troduction

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