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Addiction to sex.

Posted: 21 Jul 2018, 18:41
by Paul Lombardo
Hello. So in this topic I would like to talk about the addiction to sex. Even though I haven't gotten the chance to experience sex very much, I would have if I had gotten the chance to. I just noticed sex was part of the addiction page. Is sex something that should be stopped all together? I have many thoughts and cravings toward sex . Imagining be able to get it . Thinking of relationships that I'll never have. Thinking that sex is a natural part of the human experience. Is this all addiction to sex. Or is sex something that people are supposed to get?

Re: Addiction to sex.

Posted: 21 Jul 2018, 23:49
by Raúl
I guess it depends on each person, but there are certain laws about how the mind works that are universal for all humans, and it's always good to know them, because they will help you decide for yourself what is sex for you, I let you here 2 links ... troduction

One about sex and other about masturbation, both series have meaninfull information about how masturbation and sex works in the mind

Re: Addiction to sex.

Posted: 22 Jul 2018, 02:57
by Paul Lombardo
I've heard both of those (interviews)before. I guess one can really have sex however you want. Of course there are laws of society about sex...not sure about laws of the mind. And of course it should be consentual but obviously humans don't always attend to that. What do you mean about laws of the mind? Meaning what or what I will not accept and allow within myself?

Re: Addiction to sex.

Posted: 22 Jul 2018, 14:50
by Raúl
With laws of the mind I meant, rules of functioning, meaning, the exact way that a mechanism takes place, all the ecuations involved in it.
The inteviews are about that. Even if we live inside a mind, we most of the time don't have access to everything, and that's where the interviews are very helpfull, they bring the information from the 'other side', and if the information comes from there you can know for sure that it is objective.
And well, once you have all the information, you are free to choose who you want to be in relation to it, what you will allow and what you will not, I made the decition of choosing for myself to be someone who is best for all live, instead of being focused on self-interest as the mind tends to be, but this is a personal choice, and we sometimes will have difficulties choosing what is best for all life, that's why we are in a process
That's my opinion!

Re: Addiction to sex.

Posted: 22 Jul 2018, 20:54
by Leila
Hey Paul,

In terms of Sex being part of the addiction page, just because it's listed by no means implies that it should be stopped all together.

People can be addicted to many things, such as certain foods, drinks, sleep, etc. Doesn't mean you are going to stop eating, drinking or sleeping - but that you'r going to evaluate your relationship to such substances and change how you work with them. Same with sex.

Sex can be a moment of expression, two being uniting, physically having some fun.

Or it can be constantly on your mind and then when you're having sex you're actually still in your mind about how you think the sex should be going that you miss to be here in your body and just express yourself.

The moment you are thinking about or have an energetic experience about it - it would indicate something is 'up' within yourself in relation to sex.
Thing is that often it's not about sex itself but what sex stands for. Sex on a raw level is really just about you being yourself, and someone else doing the same - and its pleasurable.

The desire for sex often sets in because we don't allow ourselves to express ourselves, and revel in the joy and pleasure of just freaking being yourself. We're always calculating how to be, what to say, what we possibly did wrong - strategizing and thinking and being in turmoil pretty much all the time.

On a system level, sex and orgasm discharges all those accumulated energies -- so then sex seems to be the answer to feel better about yourself. But then you just create the same shit all over again, and need to have sex again to 'feel' something and stabilize yourself. Instead of living and desiring for those few moments of release -- you'll find more pleasure and satisfaction from removing the barriers we hold in place within ourselves, than chasing those few moments of gushing out our energies.

Re: Addiction to sex.

Posted: 19 Oct 2018, 12:46
by SupremeRule
Sex is a structurally resonant need with the human body. There are many dimensions as to why this has come to be the case in comparison to other species.

The importance when conducting yourself in sex is your self honesty as well as the framework for which the sex is being conducted within.

There are rules as mentioned earlier. Its not a free for all nor is it the same as bopping a ball against a paddle board.

The framework for which is conducted is equally important as to who you are within it.

Sex is you. You decide.

Addiction to sex

Posted: 04 Feb 2019, 18:58
by TimothySnack
My boyfriend seems to want sex only in the day. Never at night. I have asked him about it and he says he does not know why. Does anyone else have this problem or does anyone know why he is like this? Not sure if its a day time addiction??

Re: Addiction to sex

Posted: 28 Feb 2019, 19:10
by Marlen
My boyfriend seems to want sex only in the day. Never at night. I have asked him about it and he says he does not know why. Does anyone else have this problem or does anyone know why he is like this? Not sure if its a day time addiction??
Hi Timothy, welcome to the forum

Can you take a moment to introduce yourself and explain a bit more of how you got to this forum? you can do so here:

Here in this forum we focus on self support, so, when it comes to asking about someone else's experience, it would first be ideal that the person that is having such preference would come and ask themselves about it if they are willing to perhaps understand more about themselves or changing their habit or behavior.

So, here this is a topic about 'addiction to sex' - what you ask simply refers to certain preference that relates to someone else's sexual expression. So, there is really only any form of support or reference that can be given to the person that is coming here for the purpose of self support. This means, rather asking yourself how can you develop a relationship of communication with your partner in a way that he can get to share more about their preference - also asking yourself how does that affect YOU because this is the whole point here, not so much about 'them' but about you and why it is that you are interested in coming here to gather some perspectives about it.

My perspective is that those are questions that can't be asked to anyone else but to the person that experiences such preference.

Another note, please be considerate when posting, to stick to the topic, otherwise you can create new topics, but we reserve the right to moderate the forum if some posts on certain threads are completely out of focus from the topic it contains.


Re: Addiction to sex.

Posted: 06 May 2019, 21:42
by Arizona