Cool Joseph you came up with these personal steps to move you out off porn.Instead of wasting time in internal battles before bed that lead to potential compromises, I can read, write, go take a run or do anything other than lie in bed and think about porn.
Another great thing I realized is that I can still masturbate, and when the thoughts come up about placing myself in a position of someone in a porn for example, I can breathe and remind myself that I am here, and do not require outside stimulus to complete a definition I am trying to uphold about myself.
The last and most beneficial step I took is writing myself out to see why in fact I have come to require porn to get through my daily living, saw how it was all based in fear and self interest, and so I was able to forgive myself through writing and resonating my realizations through my beingness, and move on. I will share soon the writings I have in relation to this point.
Awesome. Having been walking the process of working backwards the details and origins for creating/entertaining/participating in sexual/pornographic fantasies has been extremely beneficial and essential to work through -- seeing how the little points, the details of this 'mental make-up of character,' start with everything that we do in our lives, and within the realization of how all of these points compound together and form the personality/mind that can't seem to stop entering the exploitation of others, sexually (mentally, via imagery; and physically), we can stop the trigger points--the little reasonings that are so deeply rooted into our self definition that we don't realize has been effecting us until writing out in self honesty what led to the point of abuse of porn and sex--that form as another part/reason about ourselves that will justify this sort of behavior.here are some extra things that i have done to stop porn and some realizations/perspectives to help anyone here.
First of all, I have realized within walking my process through the years in relation to porn that it starts with everything I do in my day, when i watch TV or when I listen to the Radio or Music or when I am simply walking down the street or in a conversation, that the porn is already happening in my mind in what I see within my environment and then what I make up in my mind from what I am seeing within my environment. this is what I see as the small Little points, the details, because what I saw was that I will see women and men all around me, I will hear women and men speaking and or singing, and I will within these physical thing shape my own private Radio in my head, making comments and announcements on the females and males within the environment.
I will comment or make an announcement on a females body and then make a comments on the parts, and within making the comments I will assess what i Like or Dislike, and accordingly keep looking and entertaining my mind/consciousness on these points.
Hey Sylvia. Thanks for this awesome template -- this should be the forefront of every addicts' recovery model. Will definitely use to help fill in the blanks to the full picture of my addictions. ThanksWith every addiction it is important to see and realize what triggers lead you going into the addiction.
-recognizing the trigger point
-deciding in the moment that you are not going to be directed by this trigger
-taking your decision into action
-watch your breathing
-any emotions or fears that occur, write them down and write them out in the moment or when appropriate
-write down what went well and what still needs adjustment
-use the points that went well to create yourself an environment that is supporting and assisting you, instead of tempting and triggering you
-don't avoid situations when you already mastered some self-directiveness, don't tempt yourself when you are not stable yet, avoid it for the time being
-when things do get rough when quitting an addiction know there is still the 4-count breath technique to calm you down and get you back in the here and now
-falling into the addiction doesn't mean you suck, you simply need to reconsider your starting point and do the quitting patiently, take baby steps
-succeeding in quitting the addiction will make you confident and enables you to trust yourself again, because starting an addiction is one thing, quitting is self-power.
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