I can understand the need you feel when it comes to wanting to help her, however as you can already see and have shared here it is pointless to try and save someone that is not aiming at saving/supporting themselves. So, what I suggest doing is then not to try and make her change her mind, but simply let her know you are here as a point of support if and when she's ready to support herself. If the point escalates it will only be a point for her to take responsibility for. This is also not something that 'just happened' but everything that gets to such consequential outflows has a long history and several steps behind it to take it to this point. Therefore, we cannot just try and save another from their own self-created consequences. You can also see this for yourself that no matter how many times you've heard or read from others how to support yourself and how difficult it was to get the points - same with your sister or even more difficult since there's no immediate intention of her to support herself.Just wondering whether I should just let her go, let the situation go, or what would be best to do if she comes back to the house. I told her that she's just as vulnerable to her best friend that died recently, and told her to be careful, and then now this happens, and she still doesn't understand the severity of where she's placing herself.
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