Blue Balls

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Johnathan
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Blue Balls

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I have decided to stop masturbation again. I completed the 21 days of no masturbation, it was on day 23 or 24 and I masturbated. Today was day 7 on round 2 and I got what is called "blue balls". Where my balls were hurting. It was not like getting kicked in the balls but it was not a comfortable thing - kind of like having a headache so I decided to masturbate because I read online how the way to get rid of the pain was to just masturbate to the point of orgasm. No mental or real pictures were involved. The pain went away an hour or so after orgasm. I tend to have sexual dreams when I stop masturbation for a period of time and this shows me that pictures/mental images play a part in when I usually masturbate. This makes me think that these dreams have caused me to have blue balls. I just want to know if any males specifically have experienced this?

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When I decided and started to stop masturbation, I would get what you described there some times, It's like a stinging pain, like a headache as you said. It was pretty uncomfortable, But I focused on my breathing, really being in my Body and Aware of my in-breaths and out-breaths and Not resist the pain, But move with it kinda. I found that the pain would go away after some hours or a Day, But I did Not masturbate when I got the Pain. Also look at images / scenes and underlying/connected Sexual Desires that you might have imprinted into your mind during your Day or Week seeing woman/females in your reality or Tv or in your mind, and do self-forgiveness on them. Try that, It helped Me.

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I experienced this a while ago when I didn't masturbated for 6 months, there would be pain almost daily and I found that it was connected to the energy within the desire/want/pictures/imagination regarding sex, so from the point of six months it built up to the point of manifesting pain. I would suggest either practicing breath orgasm or practically supporting the body with masterbation tion in self honesty because after the six months I decided to masturbated to assist with the pain and when I did blood came out along with the semen, so don't push yourself too hard on this point as I did in stopping masterbation all together and when/as the desire come up focus on stopping the energy associated to the images/want/desire and apply SF on it as well

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Very cool support here guys - thanks!

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BLUE BALLS.

I have had this once, same reasons as to what Paul said, I got it in a matter of one night, I was on a Chat with a girl over messages and she played my Imagination into weird places, she ended up saying, she loves leaving guys having blue balls, which happened, I had pain in my testicles.

I can see withing recalling that night I was deep into my imagination as the desires/wants/urges created a overload of energy that then cramped up in the testicle area, the solution for me back then was to get it out, through masturbation, it was painful and I did not want to experience it again.

So that was my obvious solution before Desteni - I haven't again had the blue balls but as Paul said it
I would suggest either practicing breath orgasm or practically supporting the body with masterbation tion in self honesty because after the six months I decided to masturbated to assist with the pain and when I did blood came out along with the semen, so don't push yourself too hard on this point

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I experienced it when I accumulated the energy of sexual desire. Self forgiving the desire and breathing releases the pain in one or two hours.
Before I would masturbate to get rid of it.

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Lol Johnathan -- I had that too when I started masturbation again since one month, but was only the first time lol -- I saw it more like: 'ok, seems that you were accumulated Juan' lololol

And after that time I kept masturbation within a schedule of 2 times a week and breathing and enjoying myself physically, like masturbating myself with my whole body so to speak.

So keep it simple, if only happened once, try again and see how it goes.

And enjoy yourself. :P

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I have been dealing with this exact point for a while now and I can see the point of accumulating this energy/pain through desires/thoughts. I have tried both breathing through it and masturbating to relieve it, without thoughts and focusing on breathing - but I notice that when I focus on breathing, it 'takes away' from masturbation in terms of doing it to get to the point of orgasm for that 'release' from the pain/desires. I'm still not sure whether just breathing through the energy, once it is accumulated, is suppression or not, because as Paul mentioned with his 6 month no masturbation experience that became very painful. Breath does support to stop the thoughts from accumulating, but once the energy has accumulated, I find that if I do not masturbate, then I also have very sexual dreams and the energy comes out in other ways like this.

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Johnathan wrote:I have decided to stop masturbation again. I completed the 21 days of no masturbation, it was on day 23 or 24 and I masturbated. Today was day 7 on round 2 and I got what is called "blue balls". Where my balls were hurting. It was not like getting kicked in the balls but it was not a comfortable thing - kind of like having a headache so I decided to masturbate because I read online how the way to get rid of the pain was to just masturbate to the point of orgasm. No mental or real pictures were involved. The pain went away an hour or so after orgasm. I tend to have sexual dreams when I stop masturbation for a period of time and this shows me that pictures/mental images play a part in when I usually masturbate. This makes me think that these dreams have caused me to have blue balls. I just want to know if any males specifically have experienced this?
It is an interesting point which we will expand on in interviews to come.
a few pointers i suggest investigating with regards to the Sexual Dreams when stopping Masturbation -
In a way, it is a fortunate point because it will allow one to face points in a more controlled environment rather having to face these points and the consequences thereof in the physical reality.
Understand that when the mind is encrypted and thus programmed to produce specific energy, it make sense that when one stop the addiction, the mind will look and seek for places where it can produce and manifest the energy it used to. This is why, in many cases, when stopping masturbation, the mind would channel the energy production through the dreams.
What I suggest is to look at and investigate the nature of the dreams in terms of - what is the nature of the desire that the dream presented, what was your experience, what was your reaction, what emotions/feelings came up, what images/pictures or scenes came up.
As the guys indicated, the solution for blue balls that manifested as a result of stopping masturbation is to masturbate since the body indicate it require specific physical support so when you do so, make sure to stabilize yourself with breath to assist and support yourself in moving as a physical expression rather than mind/energy expression.

I also suggest listening to
What is Sex - Wet Dreams (Part 1) - Part 38
What is Sex - Wet Dreams (Part 2) - Part 39
Since this interviews will explain in specificity why Sexual dreams manifest and how to assist and support oneself to walk through specific points in relation to Sex/Masturbation personalities.

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Masturbation:

We’ve explained in the Masturbation and Sex Series on EQAFE, especially the Interview Why Masturbation that: throughout our History in Human Civilization, generation after generation – we have ‘conditioned’ the Physical Body to express within/through Sex and Masturbation. Thus, our ‘expression’ was limited to Sex/Masturbation/Relationships – more than into/as actual Living / Self development/enhacement. For more perspective/understand with regards to what we mean with ‘expression’, what is ‘expression’ and how it was limited/enslaved to Sex/Masturbation/Relationships and the consequences thereof – we suggest investing in the Interview Why Masturbation

With this, one have to see, realise and understand that: dependent on one’s History with Masturbation, for example and the ‘dependency’ one had created in relationship to that, with regards to especially Porn/Imagination/Fantasy where one utilized the Mind, essentially, to through Masturbation and the Porn/Imagination/Fantasies within that: to Release accumulated Mind-Energies in the Physical Body that will contribute to the ‘Energy/Mind Orgasm’ one experience within/during Masturbation – that, if this was done – what will additionally contribute to the Experience of Blue-Balls in actually quantifying its process to manifest it faster – is the energies you physically/unconsciously accumulated in the Mind. And now, with one not releasing those energies through the means that one had with Masturbation and Porn/Imagination/Fantasies – it accumulate faster and so contribute faster to the manifestation of Blue Balls.

Blue Balls in itself, is also a Pure Physical Manifestation. As one will hear in this Interview Why Masturbation - Sex/Masturbation has become SO much part of the Physical, that it ‘is Physical’ – however, we’ve consequentially fucked with ourselves and our relationship to the Body even more with introducing Masturbation to Porn/Imagination/Fantasy, so it becomes more Mind-Sex/Masturbation with our own Minds, than actual, real Physical, Equal and One Self Expression.
Therefore, we suggest – with Walking the Masturbation and Sex Series, we give Practical Step by Step support/assistance of How to return to the NATURAL Physical Expression within and through Masturbation and Sex WITHOUT using the Mind and Energy, through Porn/Imagination/Fantasy. By returning to the Natural Self Expression, will also assist/support with one’s Natural Living Expression in the Physical, that expression no more ONLY be conditioned to Sex/Masturbation, but who you are in your Relationship to every moment of Breath Living/Participation/Directive Principle in/as this world/reality.

Thus, a point to consider when/as Stopping Masturbation for 21 Days – if you’ve had a long History with Masturbation, and the Porn/Imagination/Fantasies within that, you have to Realise that – you’ve throughout time, mentally/physically layered and imprinted into/as your Physical Body, this relationship between your Mind and Masturbation. So, it’s not just ‘going to go away’ with ‘stopping Masturbation’. The practical function of the 21 Days is to prove/show to yourself, that: with a DECISION – you can stop Participation within/as it. With this, once the 21 Days is complete, you’re going to have to Practise Standing with this Decision, EVERY time you Masturbate - make the Decision, and practise the process of using breathing, and moving your awareness from the mind-participation into and as actual physical touch/movement/expression Only. So, it’s going to be a Process, this is Important to Remember – as you have every time you Masturbated, ‘validated’ this Personality in relationship to Masturbation and now you’re ‘reinstructing’ the relationship between you and the Body.

With this, Sexual Dreams when stopping Masturbation for 21 Days – see, for the Mind, whether you do things Physically/in the Mind – is similar/to the same. The only difference is, when things are done ONLY in the Mind, it can resource less Energy from the Physical, whereas if you do it in the Physical, it has access to more Physicality to resource energy from/of. Thus, if you don’t physically direct the Masturbation through Porn/Imagination/Fantasy – the Mind will take its own Directive Principle and Manifest it into and as Dreams.
How to work with Dreams is: Investigate WHAT Specifically it is within the Dream that made you react Sexually – as the Dreams will be an accumulation of Sex/Masturbation ‘data’ that you collected throughout your life to manifest your Imagination/Fantasy domain for you to become ‘sexually aroused’ by Images/Pictures/Scenes – instead of it being a mere decision with the Physical Body to Express together within/as Sex/Masturbation. Thus, once you Identified, within the Dream, what it is Exactly that you ‘responded’ to – you can align the Self Forgiveness process in such a way for Forgiving yourself for accepting/allowing yourself to connected/define your Expression to/as such images/pictures and/or limit it to such specific images/pictures/scenes and to commit to practise re-aligning your relationship with the Physical Body that expression becomes a Decision, a pure self movement with the Physical Body.

So, if/as one within/during the 21 Days have blue balls and/or one feel it even starting to manifest towards that – by all means, Masturbate, BUT – practise moving the participation from Mind to Physical Expression. And from that moment, dedicate / discipline yourself to do the same every time you Masturbate. And then if/as you have Sexual Dreams – utilize the data/information in a Process of writing/self forgiveness to release your self-definition relationship from Mind Sex/Masturbation, into and as equal and one expression with the Physical.

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