When I first heard about Desteni, I was skeptical and I had to do my own research into it before I would even consider utilizing it. I came across more anti-Desteni material than I expected. What I discovered was there was more "hate" vlogs, and cult accusations and judgments mostly by religious people. This did not deter me or prevent me from investigating for myself. I have not looked at every single video, however, I did decide to benefit myself and work on this process everyday, every moment as I recognize the need to be self-honest, self-corrective and move forward with myself. The anti-Desteni material is irrelevant to me at this point. I have no answers to your questions, just the suggestion to investigate for yourself. Read the material on Desteni. Read what real people are doing. Listen to vlogs, listen to the live hangouts where real people share themselves, and real things that are going on in the lives of people AND solutions to issues that we all struggle with. I do not call myself a follower of Desteni, I am part of it by way of community- a community of individuals who assist and support one another by sharing themselves and their process and who recognize that in order for equality to be realized, we must do what is best for all life here.