So currently I am living with my parents, and am walking through resisting them within "not wanting to be like them". I've seen that there are dimensions to this, such as blame, self sabotage, basically everything I've always existed as in relationship to them. Currently I'm just focusing on doing activities, chores, and working around taking self responsibility, to direct myself more clearly through these points of resistance to them.
For example - I see that when around my father, I'm always afraid he's going to tell me I'm doing something wrong, or will yell at me, or basically work around doing the usual routine that we've related towards eachother.
My mother I see, is the character who will try and excuse what I'm doing "wrong", and so within this, I see that I usually relate to my mother in running to her, or rather wanting to be around her, than my father.
My sister, I see has allot of anger within herself, and within this I relate to her in trying to either please my parents to try and "win" as the "better child", or I either will try and "help" her or "protect" her from how she's feeling, in the idea that my father or mother are limiting her, and so I need to be "the hero".
So I'm still walking through these points, and would just like to hear what other people might have went through, or some more in depth information on how one experiences themselves with walking out of the patterns with their family, and how resistance occurs.
Would appreciate any perspectives on this as well.