Something you can also look at, in addition to looking for example for 'body language that signifies connection', is to have a look at whether there is something in the feedback that you've received from others that says something about who you are/who you have accepted yourself to be. Meaning: "am I actually HERE, connecting/connected or am I 'pulled back'?". I've found that connecting with people is a matter of coming out of yourself and sort of 'meet' them, almost like you're pushing your being/expression out, which you can do for example through your eyes and your body in general. So I wouldn't say that it is so much about looking people in the eyes, because you can do that without being connected, like almost glazing over them with your eyes, but without really seeing them and letting them see you. So that's what I'd have a look at, and you can also have a look at whether you tend to be very 'internal' like being mostly focused on your inner self/experience and here practice the point of pushing yourself out as I mentioned before. This you can also do with voice tonality - practice placing more depth and expression into your voice, to let others see and hear you more.Hey guys, so I need some specific support.
So what are some tips for establishing intimacy or connection with other people. Here the context is where I haven't done this naturally easily and it does take deliberate decision and pushing past the resistance or uncomfortability. I am cool in terms of dealing with the emotions etc... What I need specific support with is living the correction/expression, as something that is not TOO much, or too little. So I received a tip where to look in the person's eyes when you are talking to them. So do you have any such or similar pointers, that are aligned to what I can physically do. I already tested the looking in the eyes, and it was effective. So do you have any other pointers from your practical life experience?
Yeah so I took that challenge, and saw that indeed there were perceptions, expectations and beliefs about them and the situation, and who I should be in relation to the situation. So I actually was living that exactly, including this result/point I am at now.I would also look at whatever reactions have come up in relation to this event because it will show you if you had certain expectations/desires that could be influencing your behavior in the relationship and actually creating an undesired result.
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