A few questions regarding networking and sharing..

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Alexander Boon
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A few questions regarding networking and sharing..

Postby Alexander Boon » 20 Sep 2013, 23:52

Ok so I have a few questions to ask concerning how to set up and manage my time within my blogging process, and looking for some feedback on how at this stage I should be conducting myself within sharing points, links, articles, etc. So I can see that perhaps there is a point of self honesty that needs to be address within what I am going to say next but I'm going to be honest about where I am standing at this point. Sometimes when I share a particular point of view or statement on facebook or wordpress I look to see if people within desteni "like" the post as a point of seeing if I am on the right track or not. And while I understand that this is a point of not getting hung up on likes and that my process is a point of SELF directive action and honesty. I'm at this point in my process where I have a little uncertainty with the direction that I am going, in terms of the effectiveness within my writings, I have noticed changes within myself, but I understand that perhaps I have not fully explored and integrated all the tools available yet. I know that this is a point of just doing that for myself and really directing myself to the answers that I am asking but also I am at a point where I am really open to any corrections within how I am expressing myself thus far. For example I made a post of a doc about homelessness on FB yesterday and wrote a little blerb with it. But in the past I have done the same thing with other docs and articles and noticed that no one within desteni "liked" the post as with the one yesterday. I took this as a point of perhaps I am not ready to start expressing myself in that fashion yet. My question about that is how does one recognize when it is appropriate to start expressing about desteni? I can see that by me asking these questions that it is maybe just a point of me getting ahead of myself and wanting to fit in and be apart of the group which needs correction and that there is a eagerness to start sharing with the larger group of people within my experience, which is influencing separation points within my process in which at this point perhaps it is better to just stick to writing myself out and sharing it with the desteni group at this time. Which brings me to the other part of my questions. Which I suppose is more of straight technical questions more then anything. I am looking to expand my connectivity within the blogs among desteni, although I'm a little stumped on how to do that. How do I set it up so I can link my wordpress, to networked blogs, to the facebook group: 7 year journey to life, the forums etc? Is it possible to have this automatically done or does that all have to be done manually? Ideally I am just looking to minimize my copy/paste time and be able to access all the other blogs in one place. I'm not going to complain if it can't be done as I am really starting to see where there is value in directing myself and how I just should get down to nitty gritty and stop wasting time with other pointless things by not structuring my days out in a sensible manner. I've gotten better and seen much change within my process and have a motivation to keep taking it further. I just recognize that to do that I should be getting more involved with others within the group, opening up more, asking more questions that I am resistant to voice etc. So yeah those are my questions right now.



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Re: A few questions regarding networking and sharing..

Postby Ann » 21 Sep 2013, 08:11

Sometimes when I share a particular point of view or statement on facebook or wordpress I look to see if people within desteni "like" the post as a point of seeing if I am on the right track or not.
People from Desteni are also just people within their individual processes. So that someone likes it doesn't mean anything in itself. Also for example blogs. Many of us do ratings, we rate participants blogs but don't have the time to read every single blog that has been posted often.

Another point is that you are still relying on others to find out if what you do or say is good or not, basing yourself on others opinions. Ofcourse it is cool to cross-reference with others, but it will be supportive to remove those emotional reactions. So that even when you still experience it, and the emotions come up, that you breath and let it go and direct yourself as best as you can. Even when you still have a positive feeling when others liked your post. Simply be self-honest within it, and post with your own realizations, or things you would like to share. And to not follow thoughts like 'I must have said something wrong' or similar ... when you get no likes or less likes than normally for example. When and if you wrote something that has to be adressed and a destonian reads it, then I am sure they will simply tell you, and not just 'not like' the post. But give direction.

The process is a process, not something that happens in 1 2 3 . It is about you assisting and supporting yourself with self honesty and self direction. And that direction will always be the right direction.
For example I made a post of a doc about homelessness on FB yesterday and wrote a little blerb with it. But in the past I have done the same thing with other docs and articles and noticed that no one within desteni "liked" the post as with the one yesterday.
Chances are no one saw it.
Many destonians have a lot of facebook friends, so lots of messages are missed anyways, since all those people post on facebook and you can't possible see everything.

Can you post the message here?

My question about that is how does one recognize when it is appropriate to start expressing about desteni? I can see that by me asking these questions that it is maybe just a point of me getting ahead of myself and wanting to fit in and be apart of the group which needs correction and that there is a eagerness to start sharing with the larger group of people within my experience, which is influencing separation points within my process in which at this point perhaps it is better to just stick to writing myself out and sharing it with the desteni group at this time.
I would stick with being an example, living as an example, and when people ask or show intrest to tell them about why you changed and your realisations.
Not being like a Jehova's witness that wants to spread the gospel lol, that often works in the opposit direction.

How do I set it up so I can link my wordpress, to networked blogs, to the facebook group: 7 year journey to life, the forums etc? Is it possible to have this automatically done or does that all have to be done manually?
Euh I am not sure about this, there might be certain tools online to do this.
But what I do is post it manually, and add links of your other pages to for example your wordpress blog. And post to 7 year journey to life manually. Also on the forums you have to do it manually.



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Re: A few questions regarding networking and sharing..

Postby Anna » 21 Sep 2013, 09:49

Hi Alex.

I agree with Ann. Definitely suggest to not place any significance on posts being liked or not liked, because there can be many practical reasons why the post wasn't liked. Here instead, as Ann mentioned, it's more about who you are within placing significance on such points instead of simply focusing on sharing yourself, standing by the words you speak and the posts you share. I've experienced this point extensively as well - so it definitely takes practice to trust oneself. So a cool opportunity here to write about the point.
How do I set it up so I can link my wordpress, to networked blogs, to the facebook group: 7 year journey to life, the forums etc? Is it possible to have this automatically done or does that all have to be done manually?
You can set up your blog to post automatically to the 7 year journey to life group on Facebook through creating a profile on Networked blogs. However on the forums it can only be done manually. So it's simply a point of establishing the habit that every time you've submitted a blog post, to then go share it on the various places like the forum. For me this has now become a standard part of the blogging routine.



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Re: A few questions regarding networking and sharing..

Postby Alexander Boon » 22 Sep 2013, 04:14

Yeah I defiantly acknowledge that there is some points there that are require some attention regarding this reliance point still. Thanks for the feedback. I've noticed that within my experience with facebook, in which I will not trust myself enough to actually just post things not seeing that I'm just acting out of fears of saying the wrong thing or not being accepted by the group which I know is silly and that is the only way to get feedback by just putting myself out there as I stand presently. I actually figured it was something like people not seeing it or something along those lines. Which made sense as I rarely posted much of my own volition due to this very topic. So it has kind of perpetuate this point of fear along. Not trusting myself enough to express much=not having much presence=relying on others to see and like things for validation=this not working and me closing myself off still. This has happened before so I do see the pattern. This was the post.

Addiction is a common thread we all share, accept, and allow to exist within this world. What I have seen and learned about this working in a shelter is that it doesn't matter what you are addicted to; drugs, alcohol, porn, love, hate, food, sports, hobbies, oil, religion, and belief. All still points to the same separation with ones self within the mind. Were we are relying on something to complete us, were we are not Ok within ourselves and use something to attempt to fill that. The mind of each individual then is the perpetrator in providing excuses to continue addiction within self and allowing self dishonesty to manifest. And on the grander scale all individual allowances make up the global manifestations that we are seeing today. I see this in all around me in my daily experiences, in my work cooking in a shelter, and most prominently, in myself. I cannot deny it no matter how I have tried. Facing my own mind, addictions, acceptance of separation is not something that has been beautiful, or pleasant, but has allowed me to view myself from a point of greater integrity. It is a process of which is ongoing for me, and one that I am fortunate to have heard and heeded. What are you addicted to? Why? Lets question ourselves and let's change this world to one without addiction. desteni.org http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ADQZC9DYe9s

While I was writing it i was noticing that it was not flowing so smoothly out of me. I was noticing some resistance and I suppose that that was a indication that I was not really writing it as a point of self expression. Or from a point of anxiety from past experiences in which I have chosen to post things on facebook. Not really letting go of points of "what will others think" while writing it. Whether or not the writing was acceptable I can see now that there was not a clear starting point. I witnessed Jehovah and needed to tell someone, ANYONE. Thanks again for the feedback.
You can set up your blog to post automatically to the 7 year journey to life group on Facebook through creating a profile on Networked blogs. However on the forums it can only be done manually. So it's simply a point of establishing the habit that every time you've submitted a blog post, to then go share it on the various places like the forum. For me this has now become a standard part of the blogging routine.
Cool, I'll figure it out.




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