I fully agree. When walking process having your eyes set on 'changing others' or 'assisting others' we tend to miss out ourselves as the starting point and focal point of this process. We can't be 'best for others' if we are not yet best for self. At a personal level, it was only when I understood that I had to focus on myself and my own process when I was able to see how 'pushy' i was on wanting to help others or wanting to 'change their minds' which actually created the opposite effect of them creating a resistance to relate to me. So, it is only by living 'me' as the person that I am creating, that I am deciding to live that I am actually getting feedback from people on how it has been supportive for them to simply see my expression and how I live, which is then quite cool - but even if they didn't word it out as such, what matters ultimately is you living the best you can be and then, as you do that, certain people, situations in life will be approached in a way where you can then assist or help without even necessarily 'wanting' to do it, but simply as an expression of who you are or are deciding to be in such moments or situations.Another perspective on supporting others :
When you walk your process in the world with other people, family friends, work, colleagues, etc. Your focus should be on 'being normal' - you are there participating with others and you are there to LEARN. You will only be supporting others 'indirectly' because of you starting to embrace yourself more, becoming more comfortable with yourself and things like that.
In this forum the startingpoint is that of everyone supporting themselves and supporting each other.
This means that here you can reach out to others and share your perspective on a question or offer an example of how you succeeded in practically applying something. For instance you will see a person writing a post about something they are struggling with. Here you can assist the person - as I have seen you do already - if the point in question is something that you have already faced and walked through and gained clarity on. You can then offer the person your insight on the matter as that may help them in looking at the situation in a different light. This is important because every single person's process is unique and every single person will have a different way of putting their experience into words.
You will also find that by supporting others in this way - you are also supporting yourself, you are developing your own self-expression as life and support, becasue you are becoming aware that others are one and equal as you. This will in turn strengthen your expression when you walk your daily life with others and finding natural ways to connect with others.
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