Hi Paul, it would be better if you could share more here about the actual writings you do as self support.
Sometimes writing some conclusions that you've come up to without sharing 'how you got to that conclusion' can be convoluted and confusing, even more so when some premises are questionable, such as how you perceive sex or what 'needs to be given up' etc... It's confusing to me.
Therefore, the aim of writing in this forum is to be able to support each other, but that becomes difficult when you only share some conclusions or ideas that you have based on something you heard or read and share it here... that becomes hard to follow and frankly, it is difficult to see it as any point of support or even difficult to assist in giving any form of perspectives because of how there may be a few misunderstandings on the premises you have to create some of these conclusions.
Hence, a suggestion, as Gabriel has asked, best to share more about yourself, what your Own experience is about it. Not to only share some generalized conclusions or realizations - share how you are getting to such conclusions and so we will be able to understand better what you are getting at or what you are trying to clarify.