yep, agreed, sometimes one simply has to let go for a moment, take a breath, move oneself to do something else, ground oneself in the physical, clear the temple so to speak, lol, and then come back to the point one was looking at/investigating to see it with 'fresh eyes'....it's a process...takes time....when you start seeing yourself confused/overwhelmed just breathe, calm yourself down, move yourself in the physical.
One in fact change oneself in the process, it's not that something will change you, but rather that the process of actually investigating things and getting to know oneself and the workings of one's mind/consciousness and of this systematic existence - this assists and supports in developing self-trust and an effectiveness within how one approach one's life, one's reality, as well as self and others within it.The cool thing is process will change you, so just take it step by step, breath by breath, every here moment!
I was blown away. And it made me wonder: Am I really unselfish? I certainly thought so but when I actually looked at my life I had to admit I was not. I was not giving. I was not outgoing, sharing, helping anyone. I was rather closing off, going inwardly, hiding from the world, and thus giving more into separation. I was afraid to stand up for anything that I believed and was only interested in my own well-being, in not being disturbed by the worlds events, in not even being disturbed by my own thoughts. And this behavior had caused a lot of inner pain, because I denied my own nature in anticipation of some material benefits I hang on to.As we pointed out earlier, when you have a whole world full of people who selfishly care more about themselves than others, you have a world such as it is today. But on the bright side – can you imagine what it would be like if we ALL cared for EACH OTHER more than ourselves? Contemplate that for a while. That’s what the Children teach, and work for. The ancient Atlantean teachings also proclaim that those who want to help change the world for the better, must first change themselves, and transform into Unselfishly Loving beings. It takes a fire, of some kind at least, to light a fire.
The Children’s ancient Atlantean teachings say that if you want to live in a world of loving people, be a loving person. They also teach that one of the ways to achieve this, is to put others before yourself, to love others first, to consider others first, to give to others first.
There are some who are against the idea of caring for others first. They say you must love your self first, in order to love others. But, as Zain told me long ago, examine the results of the two philosophies with an open mind, and the answer will become clear. There are many who have succeeded in loving their own self first, but have never gone on to really care for anyone else – they just further their own selfishness. They continue to be selfish contributors to a negative world. On the other hand, all those who have embraced caring for others first, always loved their own self also. Think about it, if you love others first, and you become an Unselfishly Loving being, is it possible to then not feel good yourself – not love yourself? No. There is no way anyone could not love themselves then! You would love yourself automatically and feel great about yourself, because your Unselfish Love is of great help to all, including yourself. This is also the only way you can Unselfishly Love your self, and Unselfish Love is truly the only “real” love.
I found this very revealing and I asked myself: “Who do I feed? Do I feed anyone in need?” The disappointing answer was: no I wasn’t. And in turn, no one fed me either.The story uses a striking allegorical fantasy to clearly illustrate a fundamental difference between a world of people looking out for themselves first, and a world of people giving first:
There was a man who died and was being taken to heaven by angels. The angels said to him, “We are going to take you to heaven, but first we will show you hell.” The angels then took him to a place where there was a great bowl, so great that it was as big as a lake. The bowl was filled with a nutritious stew. All the way around the sides of this bowl were people. Emaciated, starving, miserable people. These people had spoons to eat the stew with, and the spoons were long enough to reach the stew (about 12 feet). The trouble was, while they could scoop up the stew into the spoon, they could not get it into their mouths because the spoons were too long. So here were all these pathetic people, suffering and moaning in agony, constantly trying to eat the food that was abundantly in front of them – all in vain. Next, the angels took the man to heaven. To his surprise, he saw the same scene! There it was, a giant lake-like bowl of the same stew, surrounded by people with 12 foot long spoons. Yet something was different here – all these people were smiling, happy, and healthy looking! “ Why? What is the difference here that these people are happy and well fed?”, the man said to the angels. They replied, “Have you not eyes to see?”. The man looked more carefully, and observed that one person would scoop up the stew, and bring it to the mouth of another. Then someone else would scoop up stew and feed it to the other. The angels smiled and said, “Here the people feed each other. Here are the people that learned the way of Love.”
i agree with the message "give as you would like to receive" but can one really give to another that which one doesn't give oneself?There are some who are against the idea of caring for others first. They say you must love your self first, in order to love others. But, as Zain told me long ago, examine the results of the two philosophies with an open mind, and the answer will become clear. There are many who have succeeded in loving their own self first, but have never gone on to really care for anyone else – they just further their own selfishness. They continue to be selfish contributors to a negative world. On the other hand, all those who have embraced caring for others first, always loved their own self also. Think about it, if you love others first, and you become an Unselfishly Loving being, is it possible to then not feel good yourself – not love yourself? No. There is no way anyone could not love themselves then! You would love yourself automatically and feel great about yourself, because your Unselfish Love is of great help to all, including yourself. This is also the only way you can Unselfishly Love your self, and Unselfish Love is truly the only “real” love.
Maya, I think you made valid points here. The selfishness in helping others certainly comes in when we do it just "because" we then can feel good about ourselves. But this is not how they mean it. There can also be genuine interest in helping others without selfishly thinking about ones own gain first. It is hard to describe and perhaps this ALL is just a mind delusion and in actuality there is neither selfishness nor unselfishness because in the end these things cannot even be separated. When we have one, we must have the other going with it, just like the two sides of a coin cannot be separated and we cannot have a coin with only one side, a wave without a crest, etc.then they speak of people that care first for others and as a result love themselves - and then they call it "unselfish love" when it seems to me that what they are saying is "be good to others so that you can feel good about yourself and experience self love" - how is this not self interest as well? how is this unselfish? and, regardless it being selfish or not, how would i know to care for another if i have never learned to care for myself? would i just please others and support their wishes and desires, making them feel good - that would be like supporting a drug addict to getting drugs, because I can see how much they want it, because I myself am an addict to my desires as well, and i have never supported myself in stopping my addiction, so "i know what they feel" and want to "support" them by helping them get the drug of their choice, because that is what i would want for myself within supporting my self destructive desires - but is that actual support or care? – as I see it, here basically they are exposing the type hidden and sophisticated selfish people, that present themselves as caring but in fact they only serve their own fears and desires, through supporting others fears and desires as what "feels good" even though it's an addiction.
These are interesting and deep questions, Bella. Thanks for listing them. Good food for thought and deep contemplationand one can look at this in the context of one’s personal relationships and one’s interactions within one’s world.
Who am I in my world?
What definitions define me?
What definitions do I use to perceive my world?
What within my participation supports things to remain as they are? What are the points I hold on to out of hope, faith, belief, even when they have no actual practical outcome that support life / self-realization / transformation towards equality and oneness as humanity, as Earth, as a Whole.
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