The point of Lust and how it plays out in our day to day life is quit overwhelming sometimes.
I have dealth with the Lust point for a very long time within my process now. regardless of being in an agreement/relationship - lust comes up, towards one partner or outside of the partnership.
a point that I worked with and that has helped me to work through this lust (strong sexual desire towards someone) was to look at the word expression, where I would compromise myself in daily moments of expressing myself, not sex related at all, where I would spend most of my time thinking, looking, being an observer within my reality, and after a day or two and months and years later, I started having this Lust coming up, because I have now placed expression in sex, and so I now believe that through sex I can express myself, have a release for expressing myself, and so when I see for example women/girls that dress to express (to show) I would have the lust point come up, because the women is expressing herself, so she is showing me what I am suppressing and so she becomes the answer to my expression, which is misleading, because the initial point had NOTHING to do with sex.
So throughout my days working on stopping the Lust desires for sex, I had to focus on the opposite things of sex in a way, like where I used to watch people bake cake, I would now join in, or where I see people doing gardening, I would now join in, so I had to expand my expression within my world as a participant and stop existing as a observer that suppresses and distancing myself from living and expressing in my reality. besides joining in on what others are doing, obviously it is also about what I did with myself and my own time as expressing myself.
I used the women/girls that I saw brought up lust within me, because it is inherently ME and has nothing to do with the women/girls, I would cross reference to see what is brought up so that I can deal with it, the initial points I have placed within the women and separated myself from within me.
for example, I saw this one girl once, she was walking past me in the mall, just the way she walked as though she was confident and even when she looked at me, she looked into my eyes and smiled, this brought up a lust within me - I took the moment and point immediately back to myself and saw that I was seeing myself as the opposite within me and that for me to walk like her was wrong, to have that confidence, and so I breathed and immediately integrated the point, lifted up my shoulders and walked in breath here, instead of giving into the lust of the women having that solution for me - this is a simple example, but that's how I did it, and over time, I have No more lust coming up, attraction, yes sometimes, but I stop and delete that by now immediately, practice with lots of self-forgiveness sorts it out.
perhaps you can have a journal here where you write out each moment that triggers the lust and we can do self forgiveness here and release the points. as self support and for others.