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Re: Starting self forgiveness

Posted: 12 Jul 2019, 19:47
by Christopher
Hi Christopher, It's cool to get to know and understand more of your context it is indeed a good thing that you are focusing on being able to take responsibility and be a supportive person for the people in your life, including being a father.

So, based on the topics you see are indeed your main point of focus, I'll share some Eqafe series that can be very supportive for you to have a direction of where to start and how to start walking some of these points. The material in Eqafe is no different to anything that Bernard would say, so I will still be placing the links here also for anyone else that may be interested in having support for sex and relationships in general, since they have been supportive for me as well.

Also, it doesn't matter if the relationship point is a new thing for you or avoided it in the past, we each have different paths and that doesn't make it better or worse, so, simply different experiences that may come up in our lives in different stages.

So, series I will place for the topics that you might be interested on are:

What is sex: https://eqafe.com/series/6-what-is-sex (in spanish: https://eqafe.com/series/45-que-es-el-sexo?locale=es)

Relationship sucess support: https://eqafe.com/series/27-relationshi ... ss-support (in spanish: https://eqafe.com/series/43-apoyo-para- ... ?locale=es)

and Parenting: https://eqafe.com/series/33-parenting-p ... human-race (in spanish: https://eqafe.com/series/50-ser-padres- ... ?locale=es)

So, there's a plan where you can listen to all of then unlimitedly for a single payment, you can check that plan called Eqafe Unlimited https://eqafe.com/unlimited_plan, which I would definitely suggest investing to since it goes in detail to explain and provide practical application of how you can walk your process - and also perhaps expand the way in which you are approaching these topics too.

There's a series that's being currently published about contempt in Atlanteans (https://eqafe.com/p/contempt-imprisonin ... s-part-319), which I found very supportive when it comes to having lived a life with a lot of emotions harbored towards certain people in disdain, contempt, resentment or a grudge and how to understand it and so walk out of it with the same self-supportive tools.
this is the link for it in spanish
https://eqafe.com/p/desprecio-aprisiona ... -parte-319 this is the first one but it will continue up to number 323 in the next days.


Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for support.

Re: Starting self forgiveness

Posted: 12 Jul 2019, 20:31
by Christopher
I forgive myself that havent accepted and allowed myself to be affectionatte with my partner when i realize that she is insecure and innocent, because i accepted and allowed to judge her within her insecurities.

I realize that within her insecurities i am her partner and for support her and within this, i realize that i must give up my judgements, comparisons and find solutions for her develop.

I commit myself to develop my expression for really express physically love for her.

I commit myself to develop introspect for see how i reaction and how i am within context of having innocent partner and see in self honesty all points that are perjudicial for her innocence and stop judge her innocence.

I commit myself to bring back my innocence for express one and equal as her.

For support myself.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to think in sex and relationship, because i accepted and allowed myself to participate in this system of abuse where all moves around of relationships, sex and money.

I forgive myself that havent accepted and allowed myself to consider my family, work enviorment, animals and my space, because i accepted and allowed to participate in my wish for relationships, sex and money.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to think and project the future without understant that future does not exist, only exist here as breath.

I forgive myself that I have not accepted and allowed myself to think and project the future without understand that future does not exist, only exist here as breath and my physical actions.

I commit myself to valorate my family, work enviorment, plants and my animals, and expand myself within physical live for dont participate in my thoguths, emotions and feelings.

I commit myself to bring me back to innocence.

I commit myself to deconstruct my ego.

Re: Starting self forgiveness

Posted: 13 Jul 2019, 07:43
by Christopher
currently i had the experience of being left by another man and within this you realize that love is a lie, is a first fail of any relationship.

I realize that when i have a experience of love for another person is more dificult to stablish a better comunication, because feelings and emotions compromise this for fear of not being liked, accepted and the starting point of jealousy, doubts about the person and the end of relationship is hate and anger.

The experience that i had recently, that is the girl for i felt love or atraction get another man being conscious that i have feelings for her within this i secure that her have feelings and emotions for me but within this she was never expressed because her feels inferior than me, and for not express her feelings she was decided to try call my atention going out with another man, is more easy to get another man without to import whoever. Naturally i would have to react with contempt, disdain and resentment, for other place i used pride for avoid feel bad or inferior than girl, but is a situation that i have to acept for grow.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to feel disdain, contempt and resentment for the girl that i have feelings and emotions when i realize that he have another man, because i accepted and allowed myself in first place feel love for her without understand that love is a first fail of relationship.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to deny any posibility of relate to a woman that i have feelings and emotions when i realize that she have another man, because i accepted and allowed myself to think that she is my property within feelings of love.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to make to guilty to a woman when i have feelings and emotions for her, when i realize that she have another man.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to make to feel bad to a woman when i have feelings and emotions for her, when i realize that she have another man.

I commit myself to stop my impulses and reactions that unnecesary for my inner relationship and my relation with others.

I commit myself to stabilize myself, my reactions, emotions and feelings that are unnecesary for relate with others.

I commit myself to grow individually.

I commit myself to stop to try feel good when i have a bad experience and learn the bad an the good.

I commit myself to valorate my enviorment, family, plants, animals and for support myself and support life.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_QOCPmc2HKE

Emotions and feelings.

Posted: 13 Jul 2019, 17:11
by Christopher
I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to search of an escape when i suffered an emotional harm, because i accepted and allowed believe that escaping from myself i can found freedom and within this i dont see the consequences of my participation in emotions and feelings and my relationship with people that causes my emotional harm.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to act against people when others try to causes me an emotional harm, because i accepted and allowed to react in spite, resentment and contempt.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to act against me when others try to causes me an emotional harm, because i accepted and allowed myself to react in spite, resentment and contempt.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to need for someone or something that make me feel better when i suffered an emotional harm, because i accepted and allowed myself to search a positive experience for supress the negative experience within me and i dont understand and realize that i must accept the positive and negative cycles for trascend and see how i am within this cycles and how i am inside the participants for whom I have feelings and emotions.

I realize that emotions and feelings are the evil within relationships because i serch for satisfy myself and make expectations about others.

I commit myself to stop my participation in emotions and feelings for stablish myself physically.

Another context of relationhips.

Posted: 14 Jul 2019, 17:02
by Christopher
Within the same context that i experienced, i see that how the self interest develop within me. Insisting in the relationships and when i feel love for woman and she have another man i experienced many things inside me.

A=woman that i love.
B=another man.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to wish that B/A be abuse to a A/B because i unconsciosuly know that is an oppotunity for me to introduce me in the life of A, within this i accepted and allowed a positive energetic experience to try participate in a life of A for try to get her love or sex.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to expectation of A have a bad relationship with B, because i feel an energetic positive experience within situation because i see an oportunity for introduce me in the life of A for try to get her love or sex.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to feel frustrate when A and B have a good relationship, because i know that it exclude me of her life.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to feel loser when A loves B, without understand that this feeling of looser have a starting point my love for A and i dont saw that i can`t feel love for another person without develop self love, and within this i dont see how love is a lie that fucked up relationships.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to try make things for get atention to A.

I forgive myslf that accepted and allowed myself to be obsessed with A.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to feel superior than A when i see that she try to get my atention being with B

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to try get another relationship with other person without see that starting point to try another relationship was felt frustration and comparison to A and B.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to exalt myself to A and reject her for dont feel less to her for relationship of A and B.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to hope for A and B breaks for introduce me in the life of A.

I commit myself to focus in my work, family, study and self forgiveness, for i dont participate in thoughts, emotions and feelings.

I realize that any positive or negative energetic experience that A and B is for my emotions and felings.

Family

Posted: 14 Jul 2019, 18:07
by Christopher
In this system i realize that is very common that people consider how "madurity" the point of independence with the passage of time all parts of family begin to distance themselves and this is viewed how something normal, within this i wished to leave my family for only thing that is knowing womens and feel that i am independent and feel the freedom of make what i want in desconsideration of my family, besides this economic system it feeds of this, the human race is expanding and occupied more space within planet and for other side the real state indistry grow day by day using this.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to wish of leave my family when i projected and think how would it be my life without my family and i dont saw that within my wish of leave my family exist in create relationships based in sex.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to disconsider my family when i know a woman, beacause i accepted and allowed put value in my emotions, feelings, and wishes above my family.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to feel that my family it limts me in, without realize that i feel limitate for they in the perspective of have many womens, sex in detriment of my family.

I commit myself to wish of have relationship and focus myself in my family, studies, work and enviorment and improve my famiiar enviorment and my house.

I commit myself to support my family and support myself within famliar context.

Re: Starting self forgiveness

Posted: 14 Jul 2019, 20:25
by Christopher
I Forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to feel superior than my partner when i realize that she feels love for me.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to react with a positive energetic experience when i see that my partner feels guilt, shame and regret in moments when she realize that she's wrong or she has a mistake in some aspect into relationship.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself try make to feel shame, guilt and regret to my partner when i communicate her mistakes in some aspect into relationship.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to treath my partner when i realize that she has a mistake in some aspect into relationship.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to feel good when i realize that my partner feels inferior than me.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to blame my partner when we have conflicts and missunderstandings into relationship.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to be arrogant when i realize that i have a mistake and i am wrong in some aspect into relationship, becuase i havent accepted and allowed to recognize when i am wrong and i have a mistake.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to be arrogant when i realize that i have a mistake and i am wrong in some aspect into relationship, becuase i havent accepted and allowed to recognize when i am wrong and i have a mistake in some aspect of our relationship.

I commit myself to develop patience and develop a form of communication using a kind form of understanding.

I commit myself to stop abuse in a individual form for apply in the exterior.

Emotional harm and consquences.

Posted: 15 Jul 2019, 18:32
by Christopher
I forgive myself that havent accepted and allowed myself to don't want work, study or continue my life when i had an emotional harm, because i accepted and allowed myself to victimize me when i had a bad experiences in my life and i used this how mechanism of be the center of atention of others and manipulate other around my feeling of victim.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to wish of get a good experience when i had an emotional harm, because i accepted and allowed to supress the bad energetic experience into a good energetic experience.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to feel incomplete when i had an emotional harm, because i accepted and allowed myself to need for something else that myself for be stable.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to try get atention of others when i have a bad experience in my life for feel good with myself being the center of atention of others.

I commit myself to stop to be lost in my mind.

I commit myself to dont participate in my mind cycles.

Re: Starting self forgiveness

Posted: 16 Jul 2019, 02:12
by Christopher
I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to react unpleasant with my partner when she ask me support her in the homeworks in house.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to search for another relationship when i react to my partner in moments where my partner is unpleasant with me because i havent accepted and allowed to be tolerant with her.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to react unpleasant with my partner when she ask me do things for her, because i accepted and allowed to consider how nuissance when she ask for sex, sweeties or homeworks.

I commit myself to take initiative for make homeworks

I commit myself to take initiative into aspects of relationship.

When partner leaves.

Posted: 17 Jul 2019, 06:18
by Christopher
I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to threat my ex partner when she decide leave me because i thinked that she should be my property.

I forgive myself that havent accepted and allowed myself to leave my ex partner when she decide leave me, because i accepted and allowed to compromise myself with emotions and feelings with her and i believed that she should to satisfy my emotions and feelings.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to be obssesed with my ex partner when she decide leave me, because i accepted and allowed to wish of submit her without understand that this desire for submit her is because i allowed to participate in my fear of loosing her, within this i wanted to own her within a cycle of polarities.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to follow insist in the ex partner when she decide leave, because i accepted and allowed myself to wish for own her.

I commit myself to stop the cycle of fear of loss and own her.

I commit myself to leave my girlfriend when she decide leave me.

Within this experience i realize that i have many backchats how threats for her and manipulate her for to have her under control.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to manipulate my ex girlfriend for to have her under control when i realize that she decide to leave me.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to wish of hit my ex girlfriend when she decide to leave me, because i accepted and allowed myself to see her how my poperty.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed myself to keep under control my girlfriend because i accepted and allowed exist in fear of loss her.

I forgive myself that accepted and allowed to myself to greed my partner.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YqJzalAKBwc

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